I have been visiting this site for quite some time now.
Still I find it difficult to talk to a new performer because I never know what reaction I get when I am upfront saying I am a str8 woman.
Both str8 and gay men have been pretty nasty about that in the past, only few are cool with it and lots change their attitude in private once they know - which I find most regrettable.

Performers who have become important to me in the past know about this, but even they prefer me to not be "openly female" in their rooms in order to not disturb other members.
So I keep lying or well at least not mentioning it.
But I have also grown fond of other members ... people who share their gay fantasies with me and I wish I had the guts to tell them who I really am without having to fear their sudden hatred.

Therefore, I would love to know your opinion, members and performers alike:
> Str8 women visiting flirt as members ... is that so awkward for you?
>>> Do you as performer feel you cannot have shows with women? That you have to act differently from who you are?
>>> Do you as members think you could not tolerate a woman in a well run room, a group or party chat, share fantasies and excitement?
> Should I just shut up and go back into hiding? Because I am good at that. I am a supergirl, I put on my glasses and you'll think I am Clark Kent .

L.P. was demanding more diversity and tolerance recently. Let's see about that now.


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I have been visiting this site for quite some time now.
Still I find it difficult to talk to a new performer because I never know what reaction I get when I am upfront saying I am a str8 woman.
Both str8 and gay men have been pretty nasty about that in the past, only few are cool with it and lots change their attitude in private once they know - which I find most regrettable.

Performers who have become important to me in the past know about this, but even they prefer me to not be "openly female" in their rooms in order to not disturb other members.
So I keep lying or well at least not mentioning it.
But I have also grown fond of other members ... people who share their gay fantasies with me and I wish I had the guts to tell them who I really am without having to fear their sudden hatred.

Therefore, I would love to know your opinion, members and performers alike:
> Str8 women visiting flirt as members ... is that so awkward for you?
>>> Do you as performer feel you cannot have shows with women? That you have to act differently from who you are?
>>> Do you as members think you could not tolerate a woman in a well run room, a group or party chat, share fantasies and excitement?
> Should I just shut up and go back into hiding? Because I am good at that. I am a supergirl, I put on my glasses and you'll think I am Clark Kent .

L.P. was demanding more diversity and tolerance recently. Let's see about that now.


*** I've got a BurningDesire4U, baby [Lana del Rey ] ***


I'm pure gay, but had 1 show with woman... Nothing was awkward, untill she said something like ""i want u in my pregnant pussy" :D won't lie, this one confused me lol
But generally i think on web-cam sites it should't be matter who u are: str8 or gay. It's all about having fun and making some dirty dreams real
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I have been visiting this site for quite some time now.
Still I find it difficult to talk to a new performer because I never know what reaction I get when I am upfront saying I am a str8 woman.
Both str8 and gay men have been pretty nasty about that in the past, only few are cool with it and lots change their attitude in private once they know - which I find most regrettable.

Performers who have become important to me in the past know about this, but even they prefer me to not be "openly female" in their rooms in order to not disturb other members.
So I keep lying or well at least not mentioning it.
But I have also grown fond of other members ... people who share their gay fantasies with me and I wish I had the guts to tell them who I really am without having to fear their sudden hatred.

Therefore, I would love to know your opinion, members and performers alike:
> Str8 women visiting flirt as members ... is that so awkward for you?
>>> Do you as performer feel you cannot have shows with women? That you have to act differently from who you are?
>>> Do you as members think you could not tolerate a woman in a well run room, a group or party chat, share fantasies and excitement?
> Should I just shut up and go back into hiding? Because I am good at that. I am a supergirl, I put on my glasses and you'll think I am Clark Kent .

L.P. was demanding more diversity and tolerance recently. Let's see about that now.


*** I've got a BurningDesire4U, baby [Lana del Rey ] ***



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Everyone has fantasies of one sort or another, it doesn't matter your gender or orientation.
I say come on in and have some fun. Perhaps teach others something they have not experienced. Quote

Great topic

When I first saw this site a few years ago I thought it would mainly be girls performing for guys, and guys performing for girls.

I was very surprised to see that the guys were performing almost exclusively for other guys. Also pleasantly surprised that on the Guys side of the site the numbers of performers and members were comparable to those on the Girls side. More gay and bi guys out there than we thought

Over the last few years I have seen a number of female members in the chat rooms here. I have no problem with that. It is always good when they say nice things about a favourite performer.

I hope you get a variety of replies from the performers here. I know that some male performers would actually prefer to perform for female members. Some even wanted to perform exclusively for female members, and were hostile to the guys who visited them. That becomes a problem, and we don't want to see that.

Everyone welcome. Keep it friendly

Just my Quote

Hopefully, most of us gay men will be as tolerant and welcoming to diversity as we expect from the straight world. It's not a one way street, as far as I'm concerned, so...WELCOME!

It actually could be very interesting, to compare what a straight female likes in a man versus what a gay male likes in a man. I'm sure there's going to be some male attributes that both can enjoy , but also perhaps a woman can give us a different perspective on what she appreciates in a man, and hopefully she/you can also appreciate what some of us appreciate in a man. Quote

I've just barely come out as a straight female to two male performers I trust. When I joined the site a number of months ago, the reception from performers and guys in the rooms was hostile to ridiculing, so I changed my screen name and blended. I don't ask for or get special attention, and when the chats go on an anti 'vag' tangent I leave the room or don't take it to heart. I wish I wasn't too cowardly to use that screen name here and now, but I am. Quote

I have no problem one way or the other with women being on the guys' side of the site, as long as they treat the performers with respect and dignity.

One thing, and others might disagree with me...be careful what you say to performers, and this goes for gay and bisexual men as well as for straight women. I do my best to avoid making any sexual comments that might make the performer uncomfortable, adjusting them accordingly depending on his published orientation. Especially during a private, it's probably best to remember whether the performer is straight, gay, or bisexual, because saying the wrong thing could ruin the mood. Most of the experienced straight performers are probably accustomed to the sexual comments made by their gay audiences, but new performers might be caught off guard and that might cause the momentum of the show to break down. The reverse could also be true, if a straight woman says something to a gay performer. Quote

I guess it's true what they say, all the good people are visiting this forum. Thanks for all the love .

@KFinches:
I've just barely come out as a straight female to two male performers I trust. When I joined the site a number of months ago, the reception from performers and guys in the rooms was hostile to ridiculing, so I changed my screen name and blended. I don't ask for or get special attention, and when the chats go on an anti 'vag' tangent I leave the room or don't take it to heart. I wish I wasn't too cowardly to use that screen name here and now, but I am.

Reading this and remembering your comments about this new arrow feature, I am utterly grateful you've done this. A lot of times I feel I am the only one with always the same stupid experiences. Blending in has become a second nature as has the bad conscience ...
I've been very loyal to a few performers who've done great things for me and getting to know new guys is hard.
Some I told right away, you never know what happens, and even if it goes well, the right chemistry might just not build up.
Some I visited for months before I told them *surprise*, then there is the risk they change their attitude (and becoming more pro-female isn't necessarily a good change, lol).
Recently I tried visiting a guy a longer time without a private and told him before the first private which was a meet and greet c2c.
This went well and I am enjoying his company to the day, but ... sometimes you need to take someone private the day you meet him, lol.

@Bradley Twink:
What's funny about you being the first here (and usually a rather quiet one on the forums) is that I have been and am visiting you. Now I have even more reason to do so.
I find it harder to "come out" to performers who are so very proud of being "pure gay". I hope you understand.

@myelmo
as long as the model is male
This is why blending in here is so easy , beautiful men whose sight melts you away ... just trying to stay away from total bottom boys ... and claiming I am one myself . Dildos in a men's room ... not my thing for sure.

@Twixel
Everyone has fantasies of one sort or another, it doesn't matter your gender or orientation.
I say come on in and have some fun. Perhaps teach others something they have not experienced.
I just wished more performers would be as cool! I've been to Max's room, don't know if you remember? He was being very ... Irish that day .
One of the best rooms on here, both with view to the excellent performer AND a great and fun group of fans .

@midnightvoiceco
Hopefully, most of us gay men will be as tolerant and welcoming to diversity as we expect from the straight world. It's not a one way street, as far as I'm concerned, so...WELCOME!

It actually could be very interesting, to compare what a straight female likes in a man versus what a gay male likes in a man. I'm sure there's going to be some male attributes that both can enjoy , but also perhaps a woman can give us a different perspective on what she appreciates in a man, and hopefully she/you can also appreciate what some of us appreciate in a man.
I am always enjoying your comments on any topic! You have a very respectful and precise way. Unfortunately, I do not feel welcome everywhere and was indeed surprised by this attitude from men who in some of their countries are facing hostility from their environment.
With respect to likes and dislikes ... I usually have no problems to be myself, lol. I have been sharing rooms with myelmo, who despite what he likes to say about himself on the forum, is one of the kindest members I ever met, both to members and performers .

@ronnie-uk
I hope you get a variety of replies from the performers here. I know that some male performers would actually prefer to perform for female members. Some even wanted to perform exclusively for female members, and were hostile to the guys who visited them. That becomes a problem, and we don't want to see that.
To this day it makes me furious that performers (and/or their studios) think they have to lie about their (model's) sexuality. Even with the false assumption of me being just another wanker, I had some performers admitting they're straight and it makes me sad, because there is no point in "searching the straight" category ... I once stumbled over one guy who had put str8, but claimed he was actually gay and wanted to be able to "choose" his clients. Crazy world.

@zyxwv098
I have no problem one way or the other with women being on the guys' side of the site, as long as they treat the performers with respect and dignity.
I paid my dues and made my mistakes. One guy, I "came out" to said, he's not surprised, cause I talk so much ... and I am too kind. Which makes me both happy and sad, since he points to getting lots of disrepectful visitors, too. This remains one of the main problems on any site like this: people abusing the anonymity to be offensive and causing nothing but trouble.


Thanks for all your feedback so far. With this, I am wondering if it really is stupid not to be more open, but alas! I and others could tell you some nasty stories .
I wanna "come out" in the room I am enjoying my time most at the moment. Those guys read the forum, both the performer - who discouraged me to be open to the other visitors - and his fans. I want to be "one of the guys", but I also want to be able to be myself and smiling, nodding, shutting up all the time is just not my thing.


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I've only seen a real woman in a model's room once .. and it didn't go well. Once she told the model she was a woman, the model only chatted with her and ignored the guys in the room. When a male member complained to him, the model replied, 'I'm straight. What do you expect'? Well, that started a shit storm that got so bad the model went offline. So, I think that is probably why some members are hostile to you. They are afraid you will get all the attention.

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I've only seen a real woman in a model's room once .. and it didn't go well. Once she told the model she was a woman, the model only chatted with her and ignored the guys in the room. When a male member complained to him, the model replied, 'I'm straight. What do you expect'? Well, that started a shit storm that got so bad the model went offline. So, I think that is probably why some members are hostile to you. They are afraid you will get all the attention.

I wanna make clear that MEMBERS don't know about me. I have many great member friends on here, but they all think I am a man.
I have made enough bad experiences with performers - both str8 and gay - and therefore don't usually disclose my gender to members either, not even in rooms where performers know the truth.

I have seen people go into rooms and talk about their pussy getting wet ... I find that disgusting and most of the times don't believe myself those are women ... Quote

A good, experienced performer knows a lot about many of us, and don't treat us differently in chat because of what he knows. I revealed my gender to one performer in a quiet room in whisper. He whispered back that he was surprised, but it didn't make a difference. And it hasn't. I look forward to our private chats, but in the room I'm just another typed message and tipper. I went C2C with the other before I told him. When he could speak, he was very sweet as he is with everyone.

I wouldn't want to keep anyone from enjoying a room, and my original experience of declaring my gender in chat had that result and took focus away from the sexy antics of those models I care about. I appreciate having the chance to be a woman here at least. Thanks for being brave enough to open the topic. Quote

wowowow A new wave? Quote

I wouldn't want to keep anyone from enjoying a room, and my original experience of declaring my gender in chat had that result and took focus away from the sexy antics of those models I care about. I appreciate having the chance to be a woman here at least. Thanks for being brave enough to open the topic.

Agreed, this is not about getting all the attention ... performers I visit often usually know.
However, me too, I tend to be very loyal to a small number of performers ... and it's their great other regulars I would love to tell about me, because I don't want to lie to them all the time ...
I know they read these forums, so please all comment .

I know there will be quiet times and opportunities to tell them without putting off horny passersby .

Me? Brave? LOL. Quote

I have nothing about girls in room. But... We have our specific sense of "male" humor. I'm afraid it's hard to understand for girls. Though all cases is individual

P.S. Dat's crazy, craziest world - gays wanna see str8ts, girls wanna see gays. Seems soon str8ts will be wanting to see gays Quote

I have nothing about girls in room. But... We have our specific sense of "male" humor. I'm afraid it's hard to understand for girls. Though all cases is individual

P.S. Dat's crazy, craziest world - gays wanna see str8ts, girls wanna see gays. Seems soon str8ts will be wanting to see gays

Good to know, Akim, since I have enjoyed your group shows in the past (I said I run into myelmo sometimes, no? ) ... too bad you are alone now, lol. I don't mind male humor ... I just wished they would not ask about my dick/load or whatever, but since I lie to them ... what do I expect? Quote

Good to know, Akim, since I have enjoyed your group shows in the past (I said I run into myelmo sometimes, no? ) ... too bad you are alone now, lol. I don't mind male humor ... I just wished they would not ask about my dick/load or whatever, but since I lie to them ... what do I expect?



hm. Maybe they wanna to have a look at strapon... With guys it happens sometimes and mostly with str8ts
From sad to good - you can be Mistress for them. New horizonts is opened all in your's hand Quote

Good to know, Akim, since I have enjoyed your group shows in the past (I said I run into myelmo sometimes, no? ) ... too bad you are alone now, lol. I don't mind male humor ... I just wished they would not ask about my dick/load or whatever, but since I lie to them ... what do I expect?


I think you enjoy looking at a cute male butt as much as I do Quote

I have been visiting this site for quite some time now.
Still I find it difficult to talk to a new performer because I never know what reaction I get when I am upfront saying I am a str8 woman.
Both str8 and gay men have been pretty nasty about that in the past, only few are cool with it and lots change their attitude in private once they know - which I find most regrettable.

Performers who have become important to me in the past know about this, but even they prefer me to not be "openly female" in their rooms in order to not disturb other members.
So I keep lying or well at least not mentioning it.
But I have also grown fond of other members ... people who share their gay fantasies with me and I wish I had the guts to tell them who I really am without having to fear their sudden hatred.

Therefore, I would love to know your opinion, members and performers alike:
> Str8 women visiting flirt as members ... is that so awkward for you?

i will answer you with this. as a straight male on this site i have come to grips with the reality that 99% of clientele on the males side are men. therefore, it is very unlikely that all 500 random names that pop up (most basic) are actual females, and not males that ddid their reesearch and read your profile to see that you are straight. i think most think you will do a free show for them in the open room if they make you believe they are the gender you're attracted to. while not true, you gotta give them an A for effort. i know your question was geared more towards the gay men, but at the same time the confusion may stem from the fact that it is online, and we dont see you in the open room. 9 times out of 10 its fantasy being said and not fact. welcome to the internet ;)


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Hi BurningDesier4u
The vast majority of members(and, from what I have been told, models) don't even read the Male Performer Chat forum. So pls allow me to advise you to not generalize from any kind and accepting words you have read here. There are some sweet guys who write on this forum but there are probably a lot of members who may not be as cool with a str8 women in a chat room. So continue your practice of being very selective in revealing your sexuality to other members. Just my Quote