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Female Performer Chat: Open chat etiquette REDUX
Don't start talking dirty in open chat unless you're ready to take the model private. (I call this the 'shooting blanks' rule.)
How I love you Disco, for posting this! I've had a few guys types line after line of what they are going to do- then when I finally say "Enough teasing, let's go!" they disappear. I'm not sure what the motivation behind this is, but it's frustrating as hell! Quote
Thanks for puttin the rules out there. I had someone in my chatt room that just wanted attention and started typing fast so no one could get a word in. I first pressed ignor and gold and white colors told me he was up to #90 so I banned him/her. Some people flunked sandbox and recess. If you don't play well with others than you need to go bye. so This person showed up again with another nickname and said I am back. I banned them. and then the person appeared for a third time and i said they could stay if they were quiet and got along with the group but if they even cross the line they are so banned. 
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Have I told you I love you Suggs? If I haven't lately, I love your hot ass studdddd self! muah!
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Can I beat a dead horse here? OH WAIT, !!! WHY YES I CAN!! one of my endearing qualiriwa.
Like its bee said beforew,
Please.............when we say, no nudity in the general chat...we're not doing it to be mean. I got so frustrated to have something done to my nipples at the end of my shift from all the talk, but no private, i wouyld have mounted my gear shift. But going on and on and on, will evoke the evil side of me at least to come out.
And don't startgetting bossy and bitchy and say you are going to take us private right after we show you the goods,..uhhh..we're hiop to the game.
And lastly, if you come into a room wiht a bd attitude and then start saying derogatory and demeanign remarks towards the the model, go away..you came to her, she definately dind't seek you out. Acting like a Pr**k does not substitute for whatever you may feel you are lacking down there.
Now to those that are gentleman? purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..the sky is the limit and its a pleasure to get to know you. Quote
Like its bee said beforew,
Please.............when we say, no nudity in the general chat...we're not doing it to be mean. I got so frustrated to have something done to my nipples at the end of my shift from all the talk, but no private, i wouyld have mounted my gear shift. But going on and on and on, will evoke the evil side of me at least to come out.
And don't startgetting bossy and bitchy and say you are going to take us private right after we show you the goods,..uhhh..we're hiop to the game.
And lastly, if you come into a room wiht a bd attitude and then start saying derogatory and demeanign remarks towards the the model, go away..you came to her, she definately dind't seek you out. Acting like a Pr**k does not substitute for whatever you may feel you are lacking down there.
Now to those that are gentleman? purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..the sky is the limit and its a pleasure to get to know you. Quote
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Good etiquette in most cases is common sense. That said, I don't follow Sugg's rules religiously. It really depends on the model. I have my own personal rules I try to follow and haven't received complaints.
1. First and foremost, I always try to be pleasant. If I'm in a bad mood, usually the models are very good at breaking me out of it. And if not, I choose to stay away so as not to darken anyone's day. No matter how bad a day I'm having or how difficult a model is, being nasty is never an option even in retaliation. Be pleasant and most girls will respond the same.
2. WTF is with begging? I'm not sure why it's such a problem. Doesn't everyone realize it's no way to get what you want anyway? And it's disrespectful as hell. I guess some idiots just get a thrill from being a complete dick.
3. If you want something (see above), ask politely or better yet ask in private. Show the model you are taking initiative and aren't just looking for a "quickee". Break this rule and you might aswell go rent a porno: it's cheaper and you'll get the same stony performance. Some models are very good at hiding what they are thinking, but it will still negatively affect how she responds to you.
4. Never call a model out in open for anything. Had a bad private? Leave it alone, find someone more compatible. Is the model having a bad day? Don't call attention to it! I don't know how many times I've seen a guy say "You look sad. Is something wrong?". It may seem sweet that you are concerned, but it can make models very uncomfortable in open chat. Afterall a fun environment is key in this business. If you are really interested, ask in private or at the very least whisper.
5. Speaking of whispering, it is a very useful tool but it can be abused easily. Remember that each whisper you send is hurting the model. She has to take the time to respond and may miss out on potential privates while she's busy carrying on a conversation with you. Save whispers for when they are necessary.
6. I have to disagree with Suggs on a couple points though. One is attacking the a-holes who insult a model. I don't find it sweet at all. It's promoting a negative environment. Humiliating him is fine as long as it's in good taste and not duplicating his nastiness. Most models can take care of themselves anyway. The BAN option is there for a reason. Like I said, being pleasant will make things run smoother. No need to provoke someone.
7. The model IS the most important person in the room. That said, a model who gets upset that you are talking to other members is, in my opinion, not worth the time. Models who interact with members even when the chat isn't centered on her are much more attractive to me.
8. This is tricky. When talking about other models in a room, you need to be very delicate. No comparisons between models AT ALL. No promoting other models. For the most part you shouldn't even mention other models unless you know it's okay.
I might get flamed for this, but I also have guidelines I wish models would follow.
1. If you aren't in the right mood to work, please don't.
2. If you aren't in the right mood but HAVE to work, try not to show it. Show some respect for members. They are here looking for good-natured fun. Try not to kill the mood. It's often easy to tell when a model is on an "off" day. We want you to enjoy your time with us, and if you don't we feel bad. Any good saleswoman knows that is bad for business.
3. Try not to overreact to the a-holes. Warn them, ban them, but don't insult their mothers or tell them to take their psych pills. It's a good indicator of a model's personality in how she reacts to these guys.
4. Have fun! If you aren't having fun, you have chosen the wrong line of work. Try not to let lack of privates or disrespectful chatters upset you. A fun open room is what puts me in the mood to take a private. Keep smiling and things will turn around.
5. Please don't ask for a private. It's the model's equivalent to begging and kills the mood. Don't use guilt to coerce us into a private either. It's disrespectful. Don't abuse the "nice guys".
Well to each their own, but I stick with models who can enjoy themselves and can provide a fun escape. These models are truly worthy of your respect, so treat them right!
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1. First and foremost, I always try to be pleasant. If I'm in a bad mood, usually the models are very good at breaking me out of it. And if not, I choose to stay away so as not to darken anyone's day. No matter how bad a day I'm having or how difficult a model is, being nasty is never an option even in retaliation. Be pleasant and most girls will respond the same.
2. WTF is with begging? I'm not sure why it's such a problem. Doesn't everyone realize it's no way to get what you want anyway? And it's disrespectful as hell. I guess some idiots just get a thrill from being a complete dick.
3. If you want something (see above), ask politely or better yet ask in private. Show the model you are taking initiative and aren't just looking for a "quickee". Break this rule and you might aswell go rent a porno: it's cheaper and you'll get the same stony performance. Some models are very good at hiding what they are thinking, but it will still negatively affect how she responds to you.
4. Never call a model out in open for anything. Had a bad private? Leave it alone, find someone more compatible. Is the model having a bad day? Don't call attention to it! I don't know how many times I've seen a guy say "You look sad. Is something wrong?". It may seem sweet that you are concerned, but it can make models very uncomfortable in open chat. Afterall a fun environment is key in this business. If you are really interested, ask in private or at the very least whisper.
5. Speaking of whispering, it is a very useful tool but it can be abused easily. Remember that each whisper you send is hurting the model. She has to take the time to respond and may miss out on potential privates while she's busy carrying on a conversation with you. Save whispers for when they are necessary.
6. I have to disagree with Suggs on a couple points though. One is attacking the a-holes who insult a model. I don't find it sweet at all. It's promoting a negative environment. Humiliating him is fine as long as it's in good taste and not duplicating his nastiness. Most models can take care of themselves anyway. The BAN option is there for a reason. Like I said, being pleasant will make things run smoother. No need to provoke someone.
7. The model IS the most important person in the room. That said, a model who gets upset that you are talking to other members is, in my opinion, not worth the time. Models who interact with members even when the chat isn't centered on her are much more attractive to me.
8. This is tricky. When talking about other models in a room, you need to be very delicate. No comparisons between models AT ALL. No promoting other models. For the most part you shouldn't even mention other models unless you know it's okay.
I might get flamed for this, but I also have guidelines I wish models would follow.
1. If you aren't in the right mood to work, please don't.
2. If you aren't in the right mood but HAVE to work, try not to show it. Show some respect for members. They are here looking for good-natured fun. Try not to kill the mood. It's often easy to tell when a model is on an "off" day. We want you to enjoy your time with us, and if you don't we feel bad. Any good saleswoman knows that is bad for business.
3. Try not to overreact to the a-holes. Warn them, ban them, but don't insult their mothers or tell them to take their psych pills. It's a good indicator of a model's personality in how she reacts to these guys.
4. Have fun! If you aren't having fun, you have chosen the wrong line of work. Try not to let lack of privates or disrespectful chatters upset you. A fun open room is what puts me in the mood to take a private. Keep smiling and things will turn around.
5. Please don't ask for a private. It's the model's equivalent to begging and kills the mood. Don't use guilt to coerce us into a private either. It's disrespectful. Don't abuse the "nice guys".
Well to each their own, but I stick with models who can enjoy themselves and can provide a fun escape. These models are truly worthy of your respect, so treat them right!
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Editing and revising my personal rules...
So, these are just my personal rules. These aren't numbered because I couldn't decide on an order. If I think of any more, I'll add them in another post.
Be as friendly as possible with the models with the knowledge that these girls are doing a job first and foremost, and that having fun is one of the great benefits of it.
Treat the model like a full person. Everybody asks her to show her ass or tits. If you do it, you're just like everybody else.
Try to compliment the model on something OTHER than her tits and ass...unless she's really trying to show you how nice her ass is. That's okay then.
Everybody likes a good joke. Don't take yourself too seriously.
DON'T SCREAM
Use /WHISPER to avoid conflicts and discuss personal arrangements before private. Do not use it to just talk to the model. It makes the room look dead.
Don't wank in open chat. Seriously. That's just lame.
Don't wank in open chat, then take the girl private for 30 seconds to finish off.
Don't take a girl private with 'scared money'. This site isn't worth going broke for.
Don't try to get the model to do something she doesn't want to do or is not physically able to do. No means no.
A lot of models are willing to do special requests. If you set up an appointment with a model and ask for something specific, do your best not to flake, and if you do miss your appointment, write an apology ASAP.
If somebody flakes on a model, and you have enough money for a private show. Take the model, and see what the other guy is missing. She'll appreciate it, and you might discover a new fetish to enjoy! :D
A good private is always at least 20 minutes. It's long enough, usually, for the model to cum and for you to really enjoy the full range of what the model enjoys doing.
TALK TO THE MODEL WHEN YOU'RE IN PRIVATE. It's not that hard to wank and type. A little frustrating, yes, but not hard. The ladies love feedback and they want to make sure you're enjoying the show!
Don't start talking dirty in open chat unless you're ready to take the model private. (I call this the 'shooting blanks' rule.)
Say 'Thank you' after a private. Even though these girls do this for a job, they are sharing something very personal with you. A thank you always goes a long way.
ALWAYS write a review after your private. It used to be that if you used the name you used to take the model private, it would say so in the review. That does not appear to be the case anymore, so if you want to use a different nick to protect your privacy, feel free. But do leave a review.
HAVE A PLAN
You're not doing the model or yourself any favors by not knowing what you want when you take a model private. Back in my early days here, I would sometimes take a girl private and she'd talk my ear off, or give me a confused look because I'd simply say I wanted to do whatever she wanted. Some of them BEGGED me for direction, and I would simply not give it to them.
These were probably the worst privates I could have ever had, and I only had myself to blame.
She's there to make you happy! If you want to talk, then by all means, do so. Talking in private builds rapport with a model, and can make the times you do go in for sex a lot more intimate and fun. But, if you're there to have fun, then make sure she knows what you want. Be creative with your dirty talk and let her know you're there to have a good time with her!
New rules:
If somebody else comes out of a really short private, just welcome the model back. Don't say, "That was short." or "That was quick." It's really rude. Maybe the guy was just trying to burn his final credits off. Maybe that's all he could afford. You don't know. Just welcome her back. If you must say, "That was quick" then whisper it.
TALK IN OPEN CHAT! That's what it's for! Even if you're just there to hang out, at least say 'Hello'. It's frustrating when the room is dead.
In the very rare and almost non-existent moments when you must mention another model's name in your current model's chat room, please be sure to ask the models permission before doing so.
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So, these are just my personal rules. These aren't numbered because I couldn't decide on an order. If I think of any more, I'll add them in another post.
Be as friendly as possible with the models with the knowledge that these girls are doing a job first and foremost, and that having fun is one of the great benefits of it.
Treat the model like a full person. Everybody asks her to show her ass or tits. If you do it, you're just like everybody else.
Try to compliment the model on something OTHER than her tits and ass...unless she's really trying to show you how nice her ass is. That's okay then.
Everybody likes a good joke. Don't take yourself too seriously.
DON'T SCREAM
Use /WHISPER to avoid conflicts and discuss personal arrangements before private. Do not use it to just talk to the model. It makes the room look dead.
Don't wank in open chat. Seriously. That's just lame.
Don't wank in open chat, then take the girl private for 30 seconds to finish off.
Don't take a girl private with 'scared money'. This site isn't worth going broke for.
Don't try to get the model to do something she doesn't want to do or is not physically able to do. No means no.
A lot of models are willing to do special requests. If you set up an appointment with a model and ask for something specific, do your best not to flake, and if you do miss your appointment, write an apology ASAP.
If somebody flakes on a model, and you have enough money for a private show. Take the model, and see what the other guy is missing. She'll appreciate it, and you might discover a new fetish to enjoy! :D
A good private is always at least 20 minutes. It's long enough, usually, for the model to cum and for you to really enjoy the full range of what the model enjoys doing.
TALK TO THE MODEL WHEN YOU'RE IN PRIVATE. It's not that hard to wank and type. A little frustrating, yes, but not hard. The ladies love feedback and they want to make sure you're enjoying the show!
Don't start talking dirty in open chat unless you're ready to take the model private. (I call this the 'shooting blanks' rule.)
Say 'Thank you' after a private. Even though these girls do this for a job, they are sharing something very personal with you. A thank you always goes a long way.
ALWAYS write a review after your private. It used to be that if you used the name you used to take the model private, it would say so in the review. That does not appear to be the case anymore, so if you want to use a different nick to protect your privacy, feel free. But do leave a review.
HAVE A PLAN
You're not doing the model or yourself any favors by not knowing what you want when you take a model private. Back in my early days here, I would sometimes take a girl private and she'd talk my ear off, or give me a confused look because I'd simply say I wanted to do whatever she wanted. Some of them BEGGED me for direction, and I would simply not give it to them.
These were probably the worst privates I could have ever had, and I only had myself to blame.She's there to make you happy! If you want to talk, then by all means, do so. Talking in private builds rapport with a model, and can make the times you do go in for sex a lot more intimate and fun. But, if you're there to have fun, then make sure she knows what you want. Be creative with your dirty talk and let her know you're there to have a good time with her!
New rules:
If somebody else comes out of a really short private, just welcome the model back. Don't say, "That was short." or "That was quick." It's really rude. Maybe the guy was just trying to burn his final credits off. Maybe that's all he could afford. You don't know. Just welcome her back. If you must say, "That was quick" then whisper it.
TALK IN OPEN CHAT! That's what it's for! Even if you're just there to hang out, at least say 'Hello'. It's frustrating when the room is dead.
In the very rare and almost non-existent moments when you must mention another model's name in your current model's chat room, please be sure to ask the models permission before doing so.
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