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Male Performer Chat: Performer Blocking a Member??
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gofish
2/22/18 @ 4:01am
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Just curious as to why if one is respectful in a chat room and never makes demands why a performer would suddenly block that member. Heck cannot even send that performer a message as to why one was block which came as something of a shock. No offense to any performer out there but if you are wanting to block a member from the room please at least message them as to why you are doing it. 
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Just curious as to why if one is respectful in a chat room and never makes demands why a performer would suddenly block that member. Heck cannot even send that performer a message as to why one was block which came as something of a shock. No offense to any performer out there but if you are wanting to block a member from the room please at least message them as to why you are doing it.
I'm far from being a veteran over here but I kinda understand that sometimes the frustration level reach the apogee when you (as a performer) stay for hours and you are consuming yourself to create awareness and a good vibe in the room overall and nobody even reply to your messages ... is not like "Give me money because that's why I am here " but actually makes (me at least) feel like I'm kinda a product in a showcase and not actually a human being that want's to be kind and respectful with others ... and when this one reach the apogee some react in some ways ... also block members ... I don't agree with that at all, I prefer to take a break and have a little time on my own and just relax
... is not like is your fault, you're just catch in the middle of a mental breakdown ... That's one of the scenario that I imagine based on my experience since now. Hope to help you with your question.
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I'm far from being a veteran over here but I kinda understand that sometimes the frustration level reach the apogee when you (as a performer) stay for hours and you are consuming yourself to create awareness and a good vibe in the room overall and nobody even reply to your messages ... is not like "Give me money because that's why I am here " but actually makes (me at least) feel like I'm kinda a product in a showcase and not actually a human being that want's to be kind and respectful with others ... and when this one reach the apogee some react in some ways ... also block members ... I don't agree with that at all, I prefer to take a break and have a little time on my own and just relax
... is not like is your fault, you're just catch in the middle of a mental breakdown ... That's one of the scenario that I imagine based on my experience since now. Hope to help you with your question.
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gofish
2/22/18 @ 12:09pm
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I'm far from being a veteran over here but I kinda understand that sometimes the frustration level reach the apogee when you (as a performer) stay for hours and you are consuming yourself to create awareness and a good vibe in the room overall and nobody even reply to your messages ... is not like "Give me money because that's why I am here " but actually makes (me at least) feel like I'm kinda a product in a showcase and not actually a human being that want's to be kind and respectful with others ... and when this one reach the apogee some react in some ways ... also block members ... I don't agree with that at all, I prefer to take a break and have a little time on my own and just relax
... is not like is your fault, you're just catch in the middle of a mental breakdown ... That's one of the scenario that I imagine based on my experience since now. Hope to help you with your question.Kenny thanks for showing some interest in responding to this thread. In this case it is a performer who generally has a very active chat room. The blocking came out of no where which is the main reason why I posted this comment.
The site did respond to my question over this which might indicate that it was not the performer but rather the studio that he works for. Seems to be a studio that is really not working in the best interest of their performers. No attempt had been made to give a reason why the block was put in place which would be a more respectfully way to handle the situation. The key is RESPECT should be seen as a two way street on the site but alas this seems to be not the case.
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Kenny thanks for showing some interest in responding to this thread. In this case it is a performer who generally has a very active chat room. The blocking came out of no where which is the main reason why I posted this comment.
The site did respond to my question over this which might indicate that it was not the performer but rather the studio that he works for. Seems to be a studio that is really not working in the best interest of their performers. No attempt had been made to give a reason why the block was put in place which would be a more respectfully way to handle the situation. The key is RESPECT should be seen as a two way street on the site but alas this seems to be not the case.
Oh, I'm totally agree with you, respect is the key to a good experience for both of us
Well I don't have any explanation for this situation then ... Is also awkward to me too. I'm really sorry for your bad experience and hope you'd find some other performers that treat you as you deserve. Quote
There's an old country song that comes to mind, which describes a possible reason for being blocked. "A little less talk, and a lot more action." 
But really, it could be that after a certain amount of conversation, respectful/pleasant or not, if the potential for business doesn't appear to be there.......of course, I don't know the actual situation, but I see this kind of behavior in some models. With some models, you could talk all day if you wanted to, and they're happy to have your company. With others, you may get through a few lines of pleasantries before they're trying to "seal the deal." Who knows. Quote
But really, it could be that after a certain amount of conversation, respectful/pleasant or not, if the potential for business doesn't appear to be there.......of course, I don't know the actual situation, but I see this kind of behavior in some models. With some models, you could talk all day if you wanted to, and they're happy to have your company. With others, you may get through a few lines of pleasantries before they're trying to "seal the deal." Who knows. Quote
I'm far from being a veteran over here but I kinda understand that sometimes the frustration level reach the apogee when you (as a performer) stay for hours and you are consuming yourself to create awareness and a good vibe in the room overall and nobody even reply to your messages ... is not like "Give me money because that's why I am here " but actually makes (me at least) feel like I'm kinda a product in a showcase and not actually a human being that want's to be kind and respectful with others ... and when this one reach the apogee some react in some ways ... also block members ... I don't agree with that at all, I prefer to take a break and have a little time on my own and just relax
... is not like is your fault, you're just catch in the middle of a mental breakdown ... That's one of the scenario that I imagine based on my experience since now. Hope to help you with your question.You are a performer in a showcase. You picked this line of work. If you are going to have a mental breakdown over your line of work, you should change jobs.
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There's an old country song that comes to mind, which describes a possible reason for being blocked. "A little less talk, and a lot more action."
Z, I'm partial to Elvis'
"A Little Less Conversation"...A little less conversation, a little more action, please...Satisfy me baby!
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Z, I'm partial to Elvis'
"A Little Less Conversation"...A little less conversation, a little more action, please...Satisfy me baby!
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You are a performer in a showcase. You picked this line of work. If you are going to have a mental breakdown over your line of work, you should change jobs.
Well said, I'm a performer, a human being, that's what I meant
and maybe I still have some faith in humanity and expectation to be treat as well as I treat people ... to bad for me I guess but I'd get rid of it and I'd became one of that performers that are douches ... if that would help me to achieve the best from here As far as we live we adapt don't we ?
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gofish
2/23/18 @ 1:08pm
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OPPS careful where you mention that word T W I T T E R because it seems one could actually get blocked from a performer room. Seems in this case the performer was unaware that a certain member had been blocked.
Just a word of advise to those performers who happen to work through STUDIOS. While in many cases studio which have nothing to do with the site can in many ways actually help a performer to succeed on the site in so many way, but seems there might be some studios who are overprotective of their performer assets sad to say.
Word is out that the studio in question closely monitors this performer for some strange reason so one has to wonder who could get blocked next. I get that there could be that fear that a performer might try to spread their wings and bypass the studio, but in doing so they can be taking big risks as both the studio and the site offer a level of security.
Well seems the mystery of this blocking has resulted in some sort of answer, but who could be next to get blocked.
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Just a word of advise to those performers who happen to work through STUDIOS. While in many cases studio which have nothing to do with the site can in many ways actually help a performer to succeed on the site in so many way, but seems there might be some studios who are overprotective of their performer assets sad to say.
Word is out that the studio in question closely monitors this performer for some strange reason so one has to wonder who could get blocked next. I get that there could be that fear that a performer might try to spread their wings and bypass the studio, but in doing so they can be taking big risks as both the studio and the site offer a level of security.
Well seems the mystery of this blocking has resulted in some sort of answer, but who could be next to get blocked.
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tickler_puck
2/23/18 @ 10:24pm
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Earlier this year, I witnessed a model who banned a member but it was a misunderstanding. A grey user was being abusive to the model, and this member was upset and cursed out the grey user. The model, who is on more than just F4F, only caught the member's message, "You're a piece of sh!t" and thought it was directed at him. He immediately banned the member. I explained to him what had happened and he immediately felt bad. I don't know what happened after that. I know I don't have the patience to be a model, I have respect for the good ones, tolerate the middling ones and don't bother with the ones who aren't interested, don't reply or just sit there on their phones, or standing, preening, watching themselves on camera.
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gofish
2/24/18 @ 12:39am
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Earlier this year, I witnessed a model who banned a member but it was a misunderstanding. A grey user was being abusive to the model, and this member was upset and cursed out the grey user. The model, who is on more than just F4F, only caught the member's message, "You're a piece of sh!t" and thought it was directed at him. He immediately banned the member. I explained to him what had happened and he immediately felt bad. I don't know what happened after that. I know I don't have the patience to be a model, I have respect for the good ones, tolerate the middling ones and don't bother with the ones who aren't interested, don't reply or just sit there on their phones, or standing, preening, watching themselves on camera.
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tickler_puck yes sometimes the wrong member/viewer can get in the cross fire of a ban and if this is the case pretty sure the performer can contact the site to correct things. Fact it no performer should ever take anything said in the chat room in a personal way. Yes there are the odd Drama Queen viewers who are out to cause trouble but overall most MEMBERS on the site are well worth the time you send online.
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tickler_puck yes sometimes the wrong member/viewer can get in the cross fire of a ban and if this is the case pretty sure the performer can contact the site to correct things. Fact it no performer should ever take anything said in the chat room in a personal way. Yes there are the odd Drama Queen viewers who are out to cause trouble but overall most MEMBERS on the site are well worth the time you send online.
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There's an old country song that comes to mind, which describes a possible reason for being blocked. "A little less talk, and a lot more action."
But really, it could be that after a certain amount of conversation, respectful/pleasant or not, if the potential for business doesn't appear to be there.......of course, I don't know the actual situation, but I see this kind of behavior in some models. With some models, you could talk all day if you wanted to, and they're happy to have your company. With others, you may get through a few lines of pleasantries before they're trying to "seal the deal." Who knows.
Spot on there Z-Money, it quite possibly might be related to a previous post, Gofish started praising a model valiantly, seemingly only to bash the same performer (not direct and conclusive as he is so overzealous in his praises and "hello" poppycock.) That might be one of several reasons some bans are valid, nevertheless I concede GoFish might have a point with some being not based on valid precedent or criteria, down to outright unfair and arbitrary reasoning. The thing is room is the models' to manage, so we must adjust if we so choose.
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But really, it could be that after a certain amount of conversation, respectful/pleasant or not, if the potential for business doesn't appear to be there.......of course, I don't know the actual situation, but I see this kind of behavior in some models. With some models, you could talk all day if you wanted to, and they're happy to have your company. With others, you may get through a few lines of pleasantries before they're trying to "seal the deal." Who knows.
Spot on there Z-Money, it quite possibly might be related to a previous post, Gofish started praising a model valiantly, seemingly only to bash the same performer (not direct and conclusive as he is so overzealous in his praises and "hello" poppycock.) That might be one of several reasons some bans are valid, nevertheless I concede GoFish might have a point with some being not based on valid precedent or criteria, down to outright unfair and arbitrary reasoning. The thing is room is the models' to manage, so we must adjust if we so choose.
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gofish
2/24/18 @ 3:48pm
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Spot on there Z-Money, it quite possibly might be related to a previous post, Gofish started praising a model valiantly, seemingly only to bash the same performer (not direct and conclusive as he is so overzealous in his praises and "hello" poppycock.) That might be one of several reasons some bans are valid, nevertheless I concede GoFish might have a point with some being not based on valid precedent or criteria, down to outright unfair and arbitrary reasoning. The thing is room is the models' to manage, so we must adjust if we so choose.
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Again another interesting comments and as for the HELLO more of a polite jester that any viewer just might consider. Nope alas there is more to the story. Not sure where the manage part comes into play but then this is a forum where all view points should be welcome.
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This is what the k!ds call "throwing shade." The vague overview and suppositions of what happened and why are just...there's no point to the whole thing except to cast doubt on the model and/or his studio. It's bad-mouthing without actually saying the words. Are you hoping the guy will come explain himself? I am more likely to side with models on the topic of blocking, because it's their room, their business. It doesn't matter if you're the nicest, richest, or anything else in between. If they decide they don't want you in their room, get over it. Let it rest.
**BTW, usernames are blocked, not accounts...
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**BTW, usernames are blocked, not accounts...
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gofish
2/24/18 @ 5:06pm
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Just to put the record straight on this matter as it seems to be going all over the place. YES any performer has the RIGHT to block any member from his or her room. The FACT in this matter the performer was not aware of the fact that the member was blocked in the first place. In fact he was surprised that the member in question had not popped into the room. THE FACT IS THE STUDIO DID THE BLOCKING!!! By that I do not mean the site. Nothing was done wrong by either the member or the performer.
Hope this actually clears up the miss information floating about.
Sorry to come across as being harsh but just want to put this matter to rest once and for all. Thanks for taking the time to read what I just said.
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Hope this actually clears up the miss information floating about.
Sorry to come across as being harsh but just want to put this matter to rest once and for all. Thanks for taking the time to read what I just said.
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2/25/18 @ 1:21am
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davidzzzzzz
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