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Male Performer Chat: Pressure to Spend?
Created by:
freneticallycalm
4/23/18 @ 11:00pm
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Location: California, USA
Posts: 63
So ... I'm going to open up yet another can of worm ...
Does anyone else look at their favorites list, see them online and feel like you can't enter their room because you get this "Tip or Leave" feeling?
I do and it often prevents me from going into their rooms.
To be fair, I don't think it's their fault. I think I just feel that way. I think they're happy to see me, even when I'm out of credits. I don't get in the way of real customers. I encourage and chat with the other members. But I feel like if I'm not contributing credits that I really shouldn't be in there.
Sometimes certain models I like might be too pushy or try to create an expectation from me I'm uncomfortable with ... but that's NOT what I'm talking about.
It's just me. My feeling.
Do other customers feel this way?
Do you models have customers who you like seeing, who might tip on occasion, but usually are just stopping to chat?
I obviously can't ask my favorites and expect a sincere answer, so I'm asking you guys.
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Does anyone else look at their favorites list, see them online and feel like you can't enter their room because you get this "Tip or Leave" feeling?
I do and it often prevents me from going into their rooms.
To be fair, I don't think it's their fault. I think I just feel that way. I think they're happy to see me, even when I'm out of credits. I don't get in the way of real customers. I encourage and chat with the other members. But I feel like if I'm not contributing credits that I really shouldn't be in there.
Sometimes certain models I like might be too pushy or try to create an expectation from me I'm uncomfortable with ... but that's NOT what I'm talking about.
It's just me. My feeling.
Do other customers feel this way?
Do you models have customers who you like seeing, who might tip on occasion, but usually are just stopping to chat?
I obviously can't ask my favorites and expect a sincere answer, so I'm asking you guys.
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I feel the same way you do - If I enter the room without credits, I'm just another freeloader. Hate that feeling.
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Yep, I feel the same way. I've been told several times that I shouldn't stay away just because I don't plan on spending. They enjoy the company of a friend whether credits are spent or not. But....I still generally avoid hanging around in a room if I don't intend to spend credits that day, and I tell them relatively early on in the conversation, "Hey, I'm not spending today," and they never fuss about it. It's just that freeloader feeling...sometimes I'm able to get over it based on how much I've given them in the past, though. 
Like, I earned a few free chat sessions and a party or two where I'm not the main contributor! 
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Like, I earned a few free chat sessions and a party or two where I'm not the main contributor!
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I think it is natural to have that freeloader feeling, especially when a favorite starts a party. If I don't have credits I will tell them so and that I should leave. They respond they want me to remain. I do, up to a point. They are working and I let them focus on those with credits. Ask your room host if in doubt.
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Hmmmm, i will never understand that feeling, it sucks, i mean, we are talking about your fav right? That means it is a model who you have tipped before or helped him somehow and you are ashmed to go in him room when you have not credits anymore? Why ? You think that model won t talk with you anymore if you don t tip? Lol, it is wrong, of course models expect credits from member, they expect from their big spenders, but models can feel as well when a member is low in credits, and trust me, if that member has helped him before, and there exist a bit connection between model-member, there won t be any problem, with credits or without, well, even without credits, i don t think a model would not welcome you in his room while you don t request him things for free, or whatever, you know what i mean, my advice, visit your models guys, even if you finished the credits in a day, and...if that model pressure you to spend, and if gets upsed that you can t tip him anymore, just don t go in his room anymore, simple, this site is full with members and with models, never will finish the world at a model lol, i ve learned that on my own skin lol. Just my 
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Don't freeloaders always out number non-freeloaders to begin with? Eh, maybe feeling "guilty" in being a free loader is better than actually being one?
Anyway, I'm in the same boat in that I don't like visiting rooms if I'm empty handed. Of course your favorites will generally tell you it's ok and to stay - they want to keep you around, more so if there is already an established history... but I don't know, I always feel like I'm a distraction (sorry for being pro-whisper!
) and would prefer for them to focus on others so I opt to stay on DL until I'm comfortable enough to enter a room
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Anyway, I'm in the same boat in that I don't like visiting rooms if I'm empty handed. Of course your favorites will generally tell you it's ok and to stay - they want to keep you around, more so if there is already an established history... but I don't know, I always feel like I'm a distraction (sorry for being pro-whisper!
) and would prefer for them to focus on others so I opt to stay on DL until I'm comfortable enough to enter a room
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Danny, it's nice to hear a performers perspective. Speaking for myself, I don't fear a favorite will not talk to me without tips during a party. When a party begins after I enter a room, I think it is the right thing, saying I don't have credits and should leave. They reassure me by saying, "don't go" and I never make requests in a party without credits. 
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I've pretty much stopped posting, but this is a subject near and dear to my heart.
Even though I've been told repeatedly that I'm welcomed to hang out if I don't have credits, I just can't do it. And I can't tell you how many private show codes I've let expire because I can't get myself to use them even though performers gave them to me because I helped with a contest or surprised them with a large tip. If I do use the code, I usually just chat and don't expect them to "perform". They don't understand my reluctance and I'm not sure I do either.
Great topic. Thanks, FC.
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Even though I've been told repeatedly that I'm welcomed to hang out if I don't have credits, I just can't do it. And I can't tell you how many private show codes I've let expire because I can't get myself to use them even though performers gave them to me because I helped with a contest or surprised them with a large tip. If I do use the code, I usually just chat and don't expect them to "perform". They don't understand my reluctance and I'm not sure I do either.
Great topic. Thanks, FC.
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Created by:
louisphillippe
4/25/18 @ 12:16am
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Location: Momentarely in this galaxy while the mother ship r
Posts: 1,234
If I don't have credits I do not log in. Models are here to make a living..... I just watch
the model from "outside" if I can't tip and I wouldn't dare to chat,interfere
or even say hi if I can't contribute with tips...
I do have long time model friends of over 10 or 13 years ago that insist that I stay because I make them laugh like
crazy
but even then, I get the funny feelingthat I'm bringing extra work and distraction so I refuse to just
"park in there" without a tip...
Would you go to a party without at least bringinga bottle, some food,candies,flowers or something for the host/hostess???
I think it is all a matter of upbringing....good manners areas important as been rich and generous...
BUT never abuse a friendship!!
You can buy credits BUT you can't buy class... and not all of us are out to get something for nothing!!!
Just my
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Created by:
louisphillippe
4/25/18 @ 12:16am
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Location: Momentarely in this galaxy while the mother ship r
Posts: 1,234
I feel the same way you do - If I enter the room without credits, I'm just another freeloader. Hate that feeling.
Ditto GAYSALVE4 YOU!!!
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Ditto GAYSALVE4 YOU!!!
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Hmmmm, i will never understand that feeling, it sucks, i mean, we are talking about your fav right? That means it is a model who you have tipped before or helped him somehow and you are ashmed to go in him room when you have not credits anymore? Why ? You think that model won t talk with you anymore if you don t tip? Lol, it is wrong, of course models expect credits from member, they expect from their big spenders, but models can feel as well when a member is low in credits, and trust me, if that member has helped him before, and there exist a bit connection between model-member, there won t be any problem, with credits or without, well, even without credits, i don t think a model would not welcome you in his room while you don t request him things for free, or whatever, you know what i mean, my advice, visit your models guys, even if you finished the credits in a day, and...if that model pressure you to spend, and if gets upsed that you can t tip him anymore, just don t go in his room anymore, simple, this site is full with members and with models, never will finish the world at a model lol, i ve learned that on my own skin lol. Just my
Hmmm gmmm full with members really?So why im so lonelt ib my room?I ghought memvers are over for me might like year Might never privates,rarely tipping.Even im working on my body and good to talk and sone talented but no matter i try nothung works.So i thunk site stipoed beeing filked with members.
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Hmmm gmmm full with members really?So why im so lonelt ib my room?I ghought memvers are over for me might like year Might never privates,rarely tipping.Even im working on my body and good to talk and sone talented but no matter i try nothung works.So i thunk site stipoed beeing filked with members.
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Hmmm gmmm full with members really?So why im so lonelt ib my room?I ghought memvers are over for me might like year Might never privates,rarely tipping.Even im working on my body and good to talk and sone talented but no matter i try nothung works.So i thunk site stipoed beeing filked with members.
There could be many reasons, but the activity or traffic in your room isn't an indicator of activity on the site. I've stopped in your room two or three times and you were out of the picture doing something else every time. Some people wait around to see what will happen. Not me! Good luck!
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There could be many reasons, but the activity or traffic in your room isn't an indicator of activity on the site. I've stopped in your room two or three times and you were out of the picture doing something else every time. Some people wait around to see what will happen. Not me! Good luck!
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There could be many reasons, but the activity or traffic in your room isn't an indicator of activity on the site. I've stopped in your room two or three times and you were out of the picture doing something else every time. Some people wait around to see what will happen. Not me! Good luck!Well seems like peiple wait 7-8 hours till ill leave cam for few minutes then enter room lol.Why they no sighninv in and sitting as greys when i di hot nice and even sometumes unbelievable cum shows?Because maybe of greediness to send some tips)
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So many of you are trying to make something philosophic here, when you're really just looking for someone else to validate your behavior. Simple fact is if you're watching but not tipping, you are freeloading.
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Created by:
xpertsucker
4/28/18 @ 1:21pm
(EST) |UTC - 5:00
Location: Florida
Posts: 151
So many of you are trying to make something philosophic here, when you're really just looking for someone else to validate your behavior. Simple fact is if you're watching but not tipping, you are freeloading.
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