Dolly Wild

Give Her A Sensual Massage

She loves massages and she loves sex, so wouldn't it be spectacular if you could combine the two acts and create a night that she won't soon forget? Whether you want to add a little spice to a fizzling romance or you're looking for a way to impress a new lover, a sensual massage is your one-way ticket to Pleasureville. Many men think of this wonderful fusion of intimate acts, but they seldom step up to the plate. They either fear rejection or they aren't sure how to initiate a sensual massage. The truth is that most women are very receptive to a massage, but how receptive your woman will be to a sensual massage depends heavily on her mood. You can help by starting with a regular massage and easing your way into a more intimate affair. Here's how to get started. Prepare Before you get started, you'll need some items apart from your hands and a body to put them on. To help you maximize her enjoyment of the evening's entertainment, make sure you invest in baby wipes, massage oil or lotion that is safe for internal use, a blindfold, and a towel.As well, there are some things you need to think about before you jump right into the sensual massage: Your hands must be clean and your nails trimmed. Your hands should be warm. Never apply the oil or lotion directly onto her body; place a good amount in your hands, rub them together, and then begin the massage. Start out with a light touch; your objective is to arouse her, not bruise her. Give her a full-body sensual massage This doesn't mean that you should attempt the tedious task of massaging every square inch of her body. Rather, give her a sensual massage with your body. Your hands aren't your only tools; make good use of your oiled arms, chest and stomach. If you don't think that she'll fully appreciate your torso, feel free to put your mouth and tongue into the sensual massage mix instead. Kissing, licking and warm breath on flesh are usually welcomed with an erotic response.Use your hands in different capacities While you use one hand to caress her body, use the other to explore her on the inside. In particular, find her G-spot with your finger and bring her to an earth-shattering climax. This would be an ideal time to incorporate the blindfold, as removing one of her senses will increase the stimulation she'll feel from your sensual massage. When you're giving her a sensual massage, reach all the important zones...

Healthy Sex Life Habits part 2

A way of life: not another diet Life isnt about eating your way through every menu and drinking your way to stupefying lows. Eating isnt about excess gratification. Excesses, if any, should come in the form of scintillating sexual activities. Certain foods and large quantities can put a damper on your sex life by making you feel sluggish and by being detrimental to your vital health. Keep your body healthy by monitoring what you put in it. Eating is simply a way for your body to have its nutritional needs met. Here are some tips on eating: You know your body, recognize the signs. If you have the tendency to overeat try this: slow down. Remember that your stomach doesnt signal to your brain that it is full until about 20 minutes after you reach that trouser unbuckling, top button-relieving state. A good pre-coital game plan is to drink water and to avoid fatty, heavy foods, which will make you feel sluggish and tired.Sugars give you a spike and high but they make you plummet just as quickly. Alcohol is a downer. Really, it is. You can have trouble getting/maintaining an erection, difficulty ejaculating, and a decreased sexual desire if you drink too much booze. It can also reduce your fertility levels by half. Ouch. Caffeine has the same effect. There are certain foods that increase libido. For those in the baby game, Vitamin C and antioxidants can prevent sperm defects and promote sperm mobility. Daily doses of Calcium and Vitamin D can increase male fertility, and sufficient levels of Zinc will keep your testosterone and semen levels good to go.healthy body, healthy sex Health is important for life and sex. Without it, neither can exist. Sex is life and, certainly, life is a product of sex, but how good or bad it is depends entirely on you. By making slight changes to your lifestyle such as taking the stairs, joining a gym, getting off the couch and thinking about the quality of food you put in your system, you will finely tune your mind and body into sex-worthy shape. Maintain a healthy, active, focused life and your sex will improve immensely.

Healthy Sex Life Habits

A great sex life involves more than having good technique. It is a lifestyle that expands beyond the bedroom and into the everyday. What you do or dont do for your heart, mind, and body affects your sexual health. If you are finding any difficulties during sex such as a lagging libido, waning stamina or erectile dysfunction, you may find that adopting certain painless lifestyle changes will boost your sex life and make you healthier and happier. It will also make her happier. And if shes happy, you will certainly be getting some. Its all about oxygen: exercise Your body gives what it gets. If your sloth-like performance in front of the television has you wondering why you cant quite get it up, or when you do your arms give out before she reaches her peak, consider your activity levels. When was the last time you left the couch and went for a run or, instead of the elevator, took the stairs? Your heart pumps oxygenated blood into your body and into the star of your coming attraction.You need regular exercise at least three times a week for 30 minutes to work your heart, pump your blood, and increase circulation. A proper cardiovascular workout is just what you need to improve your stamina and performance in bed. Fringe benefits include better appearance and overall self-esteem. Women are most attracted to a confident man. Arrogance and insecurity is only a thin veil that women see right through. You wont be just another act when you start feeling as good as you look. Ladies notice the difference between a poser and a real man. Include grooming in your routine and now you have a sex-worthy body anytime, anyplace. Get regular exercise, keep nails clean and trim, body hair shaven, waxed or tamed, and you will just know you look good. The best part is youll feel good too. What are you waiting for?Working the mind: mental acuity You see them all over the place. Logic and crossword puzzles, Sudoku; people are trying to get their flabby minds toned and ready for a challenge. Why? Maybe some of them realize the advantage of an agile mind when it comes to life in the bedroom. Sex is both mental and physical. What you can do with your mind when youre having sex is astounding. By using focus, you can sustain your erection and keep yourself from ejaculating so you can control her mind-blowing orgasms, one after another. If you lose your focus, you can lose your control and the game can be over within seconds. Stamina is as much physical as it is mental. True mastery comes when you can tell your body what to do, not the other way around. Keeping your mind flexible also helps you get rid of any banalities in your sex life by keeping you creative. It helps you refrain from repetition and laziness, and steer clear of boring patterns in your approach and practice of great sex. Train your mind just as you train your body. It needs exercise and will allow you to reap priceless rewards.

Spice Up The Missionary Position part 2

Bicycle While this one may take a bit more choreography, the pleasure is certainly worth the few extra seconds it takes to bend and place your bodies in delicious ways. Have your girl lie back on the bed and place her right leg on your right shoulder. Bend her left leg and place it beside your right side. Ease forward into the honey pot and feel the sweet sensation. For some added stimulation, your partner can use her free hands for a little clit rub or to stimulate you. Golden Gate Bridge The only time youll want this bridge to fall is when shes overcome with a heavy, pulsating orgasm. Place her on her back with a comfy, fluffy pillow under her shoulders. Kneel between her legs, keeping your knees bent at 90 degrees and guide her up toward you with your hands under her waist. Position her vagina in line with your penis and insert. Use short thrusts to penetrate and ignite her senses. She can aid you by wrapping her hands around the backs of your legs to keep you close. Long, sweeping thrusts are not recommended as your control over the motion will be compromised and the position could be lost. This might become frustrating, so keep with the short strokes -- unless you are simply too well-hung to lose your way.Coital Alignment Technique If you want to experience her writhing in pleasure beneath you, check this position out. CAT (coital alignment technique) focuses on the alignment of both you and your partners pelvic bones, which enables the base of your penis to rub against her clitoris. As she lies on her back, place yourself on top and enter her. Slide a couple of inches up to align your pelvic bone with hers and this will ensure the base of your penis is rubbing against her clit. Use an upward and downward sweeping motion. This is not the time to use regular in-and-out thrusting. Both of you should have your legs straight out and positioned beside or on top of one another. Your girl can bring you in deeper by wrapping her legs around your calves. Dont forget to touch and kiss her body as this deviation from straight missionary allows for great sensual body-on-body contact. missionary fun Digressing a bit from the norm is a healthy and exciting foray into sexual practice and pleasure. There is nothing wrong with the missionary position; however, you can liven up your sex life by introducing alternatives to everyday routines. Modest changes can yield fiery results. Have fun and play with your partner by taking old favorites and making them new again.

Spice Up The Missionary Position

The missionary position is a tried and true sex position that is used as a good old standard. You know what to expect, she knows whats coming and both of you are comfortable and satisfied. This very mundane position works well when needed so dont retire it just yet -- it can be modified. You can make whats old new again. So when the standard missionary just wont do, here are some satisfying maneuvers to keep your partner satisfied and aroused (not to mention impressed) by your ingenuity. The Jack Hammer The name says it all. With a penetrating, downward maneuver you control the speed, depth and force of penetration. Your partner lies on her back with a leg on each of your shoulders. It would be wise to make sure shes limber enough and up for this kind of action. Kneel, placing your knees beside her waist. The next step is easy: Lean forward and ravish her. If needed, rest your hands on top of her thighs to steady and control the movement. Initially, youll want to make sure shes alright in this position, as you can cause some discomfort if she is unused to stretching in such a way.Rocking the Cradle With a gentle motion you can rock her world. With you on top there isnt much your partner can do to add sensation to this position besides relax and contract her vaginal muscles. The brunt of the work is done by you. Lie on top of her and place her legs up over your shoulders while you rock back and forth. Some upper-body stamina is required. Firm foot placement is also a necessity to help you rock and pleasure your partner with the intoxicating motion. But make sure you dont crush her with your weight or flatten her legs to her body. She wont appreciate the novelty of being rocked in a cradle if she feels trapped underneath you.

14 Oral Sex Tips

We all know that the road to a lasting sex life is paved with -- among other things -- oral sex. But most of us could use a few pointers on how to sharpen our oral skills. Oral sex is always grounded in preparation: You want to be enthusiastic and passionate about giving pleasure to your woman, and give her all the pleasure you can. That way, you can virtually guarantee that she'll want to go down on you as well. That said, here are 14 ways to enhance your oral expertise. 1- Start slow Kiss your way down her body and tease her thighs and buttocks for a while before you make contact with any part of her genitalia. This will turn her on before you start the real action. Get close so that she thinks you're going to zero in on her at any second, but don't give in immediately.2- Warm her up Before you remove her underwear, breathe hot air through it against her genital area. Breathe softly but warmly for short bursts at a time. You can alternate between doing this and kissing her thighs and stomach. 3- Don't dive in When you begin to kiss and lick her vulva, work your way in slowly from the outside. Start by licking the outer edges of the outer lips (labia), then very slowly spread them, and lick and kiss the inner lips, and around the vagina. Do this gently, as though you were still teasing her. You'll work your way up to more intense action eventually. 4- Wait for the clitoris Try to hold off from coming in contact with her clitoris for as long as you can, even as you kiss her labia and vagina. When you do begin to lick it, do it softly, and focus on the clitoral hood (just above the clitoris), since most women prefer indirect clitoral contact before they're fully aroused.5- Lick the alphabet If you're not sure which strokes are best to approach the clitoris, try Sam Kinison's famous suggestion and lick the shape of every letter in the alphabet as a means of offering a wide variety of approaches. Make them wide from time to time to cover the whole genital area, and make them small at other times, centering on the clitoris itself. 6- Suck it up As she becomes more aroused, you can gently suck her clitoris into your mouth and flick your tongue over it. This combines suction with a much faster rhythm. Women like that.

Understanding The Female Orgasm

When it comes to the female orgasm, most guys are confused. This is understandable considering that many men are clueless regarding the different types of orgasms and stimulations that can be given, not to mention if a certain part of the vagina has to be manipulated in order to give a woman an earth-shattering orgasm. Well, if you're among the bewildered, have heart; today's tip will help you understand the female genitalia and the female orgasm inside and out. what happens? When a woman orgasms, regardless of which area of her body you're manipulating, her body physically reacts in the same way. During an orgasm, she feels: stimulation in her clitoris her heart rate, blood pressure and breathing increase tension builds within her pelvis muscles contract throughout her body, especially in the vagina, uterus, rectum, and pelvic floor tension is released upon orgasm blue clitoris Believe it or not, it is possible for women to get what is often called "blue balls" in men. As you know by now, the clitoris and penis are remarkably similar after conception, but males go on to develop penises. If a woman gets incredibly turned on, her clitoris, like the penis, becomes engorged with blood. If the blood isn't released via orgasm, she will experience discomfort -- just as men do. So when you tease her, you build up awesome tension, and when she finally orgasms, it will be an explosion of release. Keep in mind, however, that roughly 26% of women have difficulty reaching orgasm. And usually, it's her own mental block that keeps her from reaching orgasm -- it's not you. different types It was Sigmund Freud who first suggested that there were two types of female orgasm. However, sex researcher Alfred Kinsey refuted the claim and his view was that there is only one type of female orgasm. Others sexperts claim that women can have three types of orgasm: clitoral, vaginal and blended. But considering the latter is literally the other two put together, I wouldn't necessarily classify it as a type.

7 Woman On Top Positions part 2

4- The close-legged trip While you sit on the bed with your butt resting on the heels of your feet and leaning back on your hands, have your woman (who's on her knees) get on top of you, and slowly make her way up and down. This allows for full penetration. 5- The back arch While you lie on a bed with your legs spread open and hanging off the side of the bed, let her sit on top of you with her back facing you. With her closed legs on the ground as well -- arching her back and using her hands to lean back on the bed -- she can maneuver herself up and down at will on your member. 6- Up & down As you lie on your back with your legs closed and knees slightly bent, have your woman sit on top of you and face the other way (her butt, once again, is facing you). Instead of moving up and down, she can simply rock back and forth. This will provide both clitoral and G-spot stimulation, and isn't that what all women want? 7- Easy butt grab Lie down flat with your legs spread. Get your woman to lie on top of you, legs straight out but closed. She has the choice of either rocking back and forth or elevating her butt at will -- or both. And your duty? Well, all you really have to do is grab her butt at will. try it all If your woman is up for it, let her take charge once in a while and climb on top of you. It gives you the night off from doing all the tiresome work, and chances are she'll orgasm quicker while she's in control. So get on your back, and let her take the reigns.

7 Woman On Top Positions

Female-superior positions You're ready to go to bed and sleep the night away, but your woman is feeling a little frisky. Great. Does that mean you have to do all the work -- again? Hell no! Today's tip focuses on female-superior positions in which you get to lie back and relax while your woman does all the dirty work. But wait: How can you convince her to do her thing without sounding like a dictator? Easy, all you have to do is tell her that you want to watch her work that sexy body of hers, and she'll be on top of you in no time. As for getting her to move into the following positions, you can always simply maneuver her body subtly. After all, you are the man, and even when she thinks she's in control, in reality, you are. For now, here are seven positions you'll want her to get into. 1- The standard I'm sure you've had a woman ride you in the standard fashion before. Lie down and bring your woman on top of you, leaning on her knees for momentum. She can either keep her torso upright, or she can lie on top of you while she does her thing. 2- The butt face As you lie down on your back, have your woman get into a doggie style position with her butt facing you. Placing her feet atop your rib area, she can guide your manhood inside her and you can enjoy the view.3- The squat While you lie on your back on the bed, your woman should get on top of you. However, instead of using her knees to go up and down, she will instead squat and use her feet to go up and down slowly. If she's a trooper, she will depend on nothing but her feet to move. But be aware that this is for women who have strong legs; otherwise, she won't be able to last longer than a few seconds.

5 More Rear-Entry Positions part 2

3- Stand down, boy While she bends over on the edge of the bed, her feet and shins hanging off it, you stand against it and make your way in. Of course, if the bed is too high or you have a significant height difference, you will have to make some adjustments. She can raise or lower her body to accommodate you, and you can stand straight or bend your knees. 4- Stand down, girl If she's much shorter than you, you may not want to attempt this position. Otherwise, have her face the other way and bend down so that her butt is sticking out toward you. Her torso should be parallel to the ground. While you kneel on the edge of the bed, hold on to her hips and make your way in. Make sure to go slowly, as she needs to maintain her balance. Better yet, let her control the tempo.5- Climb to the top While she's in position, stand up and place your body right above her butt. Then, bend down so that you can place your penis inside her. Ensure that you're balanced; otherwise you may end up falling on top of her. Place your hands on her back without pressing down, or use the help of a wall or bedpost to maintain balance. Be careful not to thrust too quickly initially; ensure that she enjoys the sensation first. it's a doggie-style world Now that you have even more variety to add to your bedroom ventures, make sure that you use them sparingly and wisely. And don't forget that penetration is just a fraction of what good sex entails. Make every moment count.

5 More Rear-Entry Positions

Doggie style positions Ah, doggie style... the position most animals use to get it on, humans being no exception. As one of men's and women's favorite sexual position, doggie style has been a welcome addition to people's sex lives for ages. The last time I advised you on adding some variety to the rear-entry position, you maneuvered yourself and your girl into sexual oblivion. Well, now, here are five more variations you can try. 1- Tight-legged Getting into the typical doggie stance, have your girl keep her legs closed and open yours around them. As well, get her to arch her back and lean on her hands rather than lean down and rest on her elbows on the bed (or whatever surface you happen to be on). To help her maintain that stance, wrap your hand around her hair and give it an occasional tug while you're having sex.In addition to hair-pulling, you can rub her spine lightly and even hug her waist while you penetrate her. 2- Upright torsos Get into your regular doggie stance, but lift your torso along with your girl's so that you're upright while you penetrate. Doing this in a location where she's facing the wall or, say, the bedpost, will allow her to place her hands there to maintain balance while you're going in and out. Use your free hands to caress her breasts and butt, rub her shoulders and get a better grip for penetration. This position also allow you room to easily kiss her mouth and neck.

Get Her To Play With Herself part 2

Masturbate with her Mutual masturbation is a really sexy experience few women have had the opportunity to enjoy. Every female gets wet at the sound of her man groaning with delight, making this a potential sexual favorite. A man touching himself because he has to -- because his woman has made him that horny -- is powerfully intoxicating. Its a situation sure to end in broadened horizons and mutual ecstasy. Helping hand: Lie beside her on the bed and make eye contact. While holding her gaze, start teasing yourself slowly. Tell her how much you want her, and that you cant help touching yourself. In your sexiest voice, softly suggest she touch herself as well. When she does, let her hear your appreciation, even if only in the form of a well-timed moan. This will double her pleasure until youve both achieved orgasm.Spin it as instructional This is a good way to broach the subject with a woman who already knows what she needs in bed -- the liberal, independent woman whos not afraid to try anything once, yet has never been invited to try this. Ask what turns her on, and then request a demonstration. Use a soft, sexy tone and the request will sound highly erotic. This scenario will seem far less taboo than simply asking her to masturbate for you. Helping hand: While shes lying down on the bed, ask how she touches herself. Does she take her time? Does she tease herself first? Tell her you want to be able to please her better than she can please herself. Once shes begun, support her efforts by telling her how sexy it is. Encourage her every step of the way and desire is bound to rule in your favor.spice it up If you really want your woman to masturbate for you, the best way to achieve this is to let her know how much pleasure you get from it. Some women are well aware of this, and theyll be thrilled to perform for you. Others will need a bit of coaxing before they feel comfortable with it. Select the technique that best accommodates your womans personality and be patient. The idea will surely appeal to her once her inner vixen has had time to surface.

Get Her To Play With Herself

How to get her to masturbate for you Masturbation can be a tricky subject for some women; while most enjoy it on a regular basis, few would be comfortable openly discussing such things with a significant other. This is often the result of having been raised to think of it as an inappropriate (and unnecessary) indulgence. Fortunately, this mindset is fully reversible. And its easier than you think. All she needs is the right encouragement and a man whos willing to let her set the pace. Try one of the following tips and it wont be long before she discovers how much of a turn-on masturbating for you can be. Express a desire to watch This is, without a doubt, the key factor in getting her to touch herself. If its her first time, shell be faced with a number of mental obstacles, one of them being performance anxiety. Add to that the fact that most women dont fantasize about watching men masturbate, and she may have difficulty believing you really want to see her do this. She may also feel like shes being placed under a microscope, which can lead to worries about how she appears during the performance. Let her know its guaranteed to drive you wild and shell gain the confidence needed to tease you into oblivion.Helping hand: Turn her on with the usual foreplay and then ask if she ever gets hot when thinking about you. When she admits to doing so, soften your voice and ask if she touches herself as well. She may be slightly embarrassed by the question, but rest assured that it will have excited her. Once shes fully aroused, share your fantasies. Tell her how badly you want to watch; tell her how sexy it would be. Convince her, and watch how quickly she warms to the idea. Help her masturbate If you know shes too shy to have an open discussion about masturbation, this is an excellent way to help her ease into it. The idea is to guide her through it, showing how perfectly acceptable -- and fun -- it can be to touch herself for you. By guiding her hand to her clitoris, the masturbation taboo is slightly diminished because shes not doing it completely on her own. Shes doing it with you, which can make all the difference to a woman having difficulty suppressing her inhibitions. Helping her masturbate will eventually lead to her flying solo for you, after shes realized how pleasurable the experience it can be. Helping hand: This works best when shes already turned on and down to her knickers. Get her into a kneeling position and slide behind her on the bed. Slide her hands over the curve of her waist, her tummy and her breasts -- areas that arent going to freak her out. Show her how sexy it can be to touch herself with a mans assistance. Once shes begging for something more, ask her to touch herself and slowly guide her fingers downward to her clitoris. Let her set the pace -- you may lead, but go too quickly and it could backfire. Be patient and theres a good chance shell let your fingers do the walking.

Foreplay Tips part 2

"When she spreads her legs a bit, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch her a little deeper. " 3- Strip down Strip shows aren't just for men anymore; women have gotten wise to the idea of having men perform a peel dance for them. While I don't suggest you dance for her as you take off your socks or install a pole in your bedroom, I do recommend that you remove your clothes slowly (especially if you're fit). Remove your socks before you do anything; they're awkward and nothing turns a woman off faster than seeing a naked man with his socks on. Now that you're set to go, start by removing your shirt (unbutton it slowly while maintaining eye contact), then your pants, and finally your underwear. At this point, undress her just as slowly. Sit her down and remove her clothing in the same order you removed yours. 4- Use your fingers and give her oral pleasure Once again, I have to say that every woman is different and, therefore, every woman likes to be touched differently. However, the same techniques that you hopefully used in high school are still effective in the majority of women. Bring your hand to her vaginal area and, with the tips of your fingers, rub her outer lips (labia majora) by spreading them apart and bringing them back together; that should start the lubrication process. When she spreads her legs a bit, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch her a little deeper. At this point, you can start lightly rubbing her inner lips (labia minora), and then move up to her clitoris, which you should rub in a circular motion. Some women like their clitoris to be touched gently, while others prefer a more vigorous contact; read your girlfriend's body language for a sign of what you should do. After a few minutes, bring your mouth to the area and, while you continue to use your fingers to play around inside her, gently suck on clitoris to give her some great oral pleasure. 5- Watch some sex and kiss her Porn can be a great way to get you and your girl in the mood, provided that your girlfriend is the type who enjoys adult entertainment. Put on something that both of you can enjoy (preferably other couples having sex and something tailored to women), and lay naked with each other while you watch it. Remember that an "accidental" caress here and there is perfectly acceptable, even preferable. Every now and then, stop watching the movie and kiss her or play with her body. Make sure to pay more attention to her than you do to the movie. As well, if you see something kinky that you'd like to try, make a comment about it and gauge her response, which will give you an indication of whether or not she's game. The idea here is to get her imagination going. foreplay formation And there it is. Five easy ways to drive your girl insane with foreplay. Of course, you don't have to do them all in one day. Keep things lively, fun and erotic, and she'll be incorrigible. One last time: Every woman is different and if you're attentive, you should be a success.

Foreplay Tips

" During foreplay, the power of suggestion can be as great as sex itself. " Foreplay is the one thing women can't get enough of -- OK, there are a few other things as well, but foreplay is an important one. In general terms, women are emotional creatures, and that's why they like, enjoy and often need foreplay. Unlike their male counterparts, women aren't raring to get down to it. This is because their bodies need help conjuring the lust and lubrication required for intercourse and their emotions dictate that they feel a sense of closeness and mutual respect with their partner. All of this can be achieved through foreplay, which will also help your lady friend feel desired by you; if you simply want to jump her bones, she'll feel like a tool or a machine designed to get you off. Now, each woman is different, and some might like to bump uglies without any foreplay, but the odds are that your girl will need to grease the wheels first. That said, here are five foreplay tips that'll help you turn everyday frolicking into something that will have any woman you seduce begging for satisfaction. 1- Talk and tease During foreplay, the power of suggestion (especially with some dirty talk) can be as great as the sex itself for many women. If you can describe how you want to touch her, where, and with which of your body parts, she'll visualize it easily and eagerly. And if you know how to have sex with her brain (it is a major sexual organ), you can bet that she'll be begging you to have sex with the rest of her in due time. If you need to touch her while you dirty talk her during foreplay, avoid touching her breasts and vagina. Instead, focus your mouth and hands on her neck, wrists, inner thighs, lower back, and ears. 2- Get started in public Foreplay doesn't need to be restricted to the bedroom or inside four walls. If you and your girlfriend don't start crying at the thought of public displays of affection (PDA), try doing some fun things out in the open. And by fun things, I mean such things as rubbing her breasts or respectfully patting her ass in a restaurant, kissing her passionately while having drinks at a bar or dirty dancing at a nightclub. Make an effort to turn her on wherever you are. If you show her that she turns you on via PDA, when you finally do find yourselves in a private situation, the good times will lead to some carnal indulgences.

G-Spot Vs. Clitoris part 2

Feel free to mix it up in your quest to bring her to orgasm. Because of its location, her clitoris can be stimulated in three main ways, each of which can take her over the edge. Manual stimulation offers the easiest starting point, as you can still maintain a visual of what you're doing and you can more easily gauge her reaction. Oral attention adds the extra element of warmth and moisture that can help move things along. Intercourse, especially with you on top, can provide a rhythmic addition to her stimulation if you position yourself correctly and have your pubic bone hitting her in just the right spot -- which can take a little practice but is worth the effort to perfect. If you can't seem to get this down, it's always OK to ask her for a little help; with positions that put her in the driver's seat, both of you will have your hands free to give your sack session a little boost. g-spot What The G-spot is a small walnut-sized bundle of nerve endings. Where Located inside and on the front wall of the vagina (toward her belly button) about half-way between the opening and cervix, the G-spot feels rough to the touch when stimulated. How Because of its position, it's impractical for your lady to give you a helping hand on this one. Therefore, stimulating her G-spot is basically up to you, and can be approached in two ways: During intercourse, it's possible to position yourself so that your penis rubs against her G-spot with standard maneuvers. Rear-entry positions will give you the best shot; have her rest on her elbows rather than her hands to give you a better angle. Your fingers are infinitely more dexterous than your other sexual parts and can give you the ability for trial and error in locating her G-spot as you can feel around more slowly and specifically. During foreplay, insert your finger and crook it into a come hither motion pointing toward her belly button and gently probe the surface. You'll be looking for a small spot that is more dense than the surrounding area -- and dont worry, she'll let you know if you find it. pleasure points Now that you have some basic directions, it's time to hit the road and enjoy the ride. Just like with every trip, there are going to be bumps in the road that you'll have to take into consideration, some possible detours, and of course, a little customization for your specific travel partner. Hopefully, with the basic route in order, you'll be ready to wow your lady with your intricate knowledge of these two must-visit destinations.

G-Spot Vs. Clitoris

The last thing you want to do when you're a little lost is ask for directions -- especially when you don't know your way around the bedroom. No one will argue that the female body is straightforward and without mysterious secrets, so you shouldn't feel too bad for needing some pointers on her pleasure zones and the intricacies of the female orgasm. To make it as simple as possible, there are two basic ways to go about bringing your lady to orgasm: stimulating her clitoris and stimulating her G-spot. Each area needs its own type of attention and will bring very unique sensations for her, and both are worth knowing a bit more about. Keep reading for the quick and easy reference guide to satisfying your woman -- no map required. clitoris What The clitoris is the only organ in the female body devoted solely to physical pleasure and is the physiological equivalent of the head of a man's penis -- packed with nerve endings and sensitive to touch. Where Located on the outside of the female body just above the opening of the vagina, the clitoris is a small protrusion that becomes more pronounced when a woman is aroused. How Mankind has circulated many theories on what works best in stimulating a woman to orgasm via the clitoris, and there are some basic ground rules for approaching her nether regions. Keep it light; the area is very sensitive and she'll respond much better to a slow start. She'll let you know if an increase in pressure is required. Include the surrounding area and don't focus too intently. The nerve endings extend out from her clitoris and she'll get pleasurable feelings from attention being paid to the entire area. In fact, too much direct attention can even be uncomfortable for some women, so variation is key. Speed is important to her, just as it is to you when she visits down south. Steadily increasing strokes that are sustained are going to be much more successful than sporadic or inconsistent probing. A road map to her G-spot

She's A Virgin part 2

Turn her on No doubt it sounds like an obvious tip, but this one is more overlooked than you might realize. You want her so hot shes purring with lust and begging for it -- and you want to keep her that way until the moment of truth. Unfortunately, many men break the mojo just before penetration. Its not intentional, they just get a bit tense knowing theyre about to cause their partner a minor amount of pain. Relax, she knows what's coming and shes not going to hold it against you. Go slowly, but dont forget to kiss and caress her as you do. This gives her something else to focus on and keeps her aroused, which will actually decrease her sensitivity to pain. Be willing to slow down and stop She may be ready and willing at the start of the evening, but be prepared for that to change before the deed is done. Rest assured, it doesnt mean she doesnt want you, it just means shes not ready. Some women are more sexually liberated than others -- her virginity might be something she cant cope with losing right now. On the other hand, she might just need a little reassurance. She may need evidence that you really care about her and are willing to wait. A willingness to stop and take a step back is often all the proof a woman needs. It may even be enough for her to decide to keep going. Either way, a little compassion in this area will earn you major points. innocence unleashed Just because shes a virgin doesnt mean shes a cold fish; shes probably just waiting for the right man to come along and show her how its done. A little compassion in this arena could land you a very loyal woman whos eager to please. Dont shy away from the "good girl" -- step up to the plate and show her what shes been missing out on.

She's A Virgin

While virginity may seem a bit outdated and old-fashioned, a number of women in their 20s and 30s are exactly that -- virginal. If youre dating a "future sex kitten" and shes decided youre the one, youll want to keep several things in mind as you rock her world. Unlike sexually experienced women, if she's a virgin, she doesnt really know what to expect, apart from what her girlfriends have told her -- which means shes either going to be anticipating lots of pain or lots of ecstasy, depending who shes talked to. Regardless, shes definitely going to be nervous, and thats where you come in. The following tips will help to ensure that if she's a virgin, her first time will be anything but awkward. Avoid ultimatums No one likes being under the gun. Its absolutely OK to let her know youre ready to take things to the next level, but you dont want her thinking thats all youre after. Women who are still virgins at 25 and 30 are unlikely to cave to the pressure, anyway -- theyre obviously pretty skilled at saying no! If she's a virgin and hasnt given the goods up yet, thats an indication shes waiting for someone special. Laying the pressure on will make her feel cornered, trapped and objectified -- not exactly the hallmark of Prince Charming! Take control Youre the experienced one here, and shes going to need your firm, but gentle, guidance. In fact, shes going to expect it, so dont be afraid to lead with confidence; women love men who take charge in the bedroom. Let her determine the pace, but never lose sight of whos teaching whom. She may be screaming with delight, begging you to shag her silly -- but that doesnt mean shes ready. Youre the expert; its your job to gauge her level of arousal. You want her incredibly horny (and as wet as you can get her) before you go the whole nine yards. Shes going to remember this for the rest of her life. You want her reflecting on this moment with a saucy grin, not crossing her legs in pain at the memory. Relax her Its natural for her to feel a bit jittery, but you can ease much of that anxiety with a few simple tricks. Shes likely to be feeling self-conscious, so start with a few confidence boosters. Tell her shes sexy and let her know she looks fantastic in your bed. Even if she already knows this, hearing you say it will do wonders. Spend extra time kissing, letting her know you're focused is on her, and not just her body. Talk to her as you touch her body, find out what she likes and what she doesnt. It may sound one-sided, but this should be all about her and what shes offering you -- as opposed to what youre taking. Let her know this, and shell relax completely.

The Importance Of Foreplay part 2

set the mood To learn the importance of foreplay you have to know how to set the mood. The next step is paying attention to romantic details. Creating the right environment for sexual intercourse can be crucial, especially at mature stages in the relationship. For example, make sure the room is warm, the lighting subdued, and the sheets clean. Once the mood is right, take the time to undress her because the act of removing your partner's clothes can be an important part of foreplay. Many have found that undressing increases the eroticism, it stimulates and intensifies the feeling. Often, women spend a lot of money on nice lingerie because it makes them feel sexy and they want it to stay on for a while. Instead of getting her completely naked, remove her bra strap, kiss her shoulder, then put it back on again. Do the same with her underwear, and, again; compliment how good she looks in it. kissing and foreplay During foreplay, go as slow as you can. This will tease her. Begin by kissing and caressing her. A kiss is usually the first physical expression of desire but it is also often forgotten during sexual intercourse. During intercourse, you should kiss every part of your partner's body and not be restricted to the mouth. Most women complain that their partners don't kiss long enough and rush the movement directly to the genital area. Don't be shy to experiment on every part of her body and remember to prolong the foreplay with more kissing and caressing. a good time for learning This article focused on the importance of foreplay as it is a learning experience. Foreplay is the perfect time to spend understanding what your partner likes because without that, you will never learn what she really needs to be fully stimulated. Don't be shy; ask for feedback and also give your own. Both partners profit from good communication during foreplay and lovemaking. Also, without cutting the intensity of the moment, ask her what she really likes and what makes her go wild. the time of her life As a general rule, if she is satisfied with her sexual experience, she will usually make sure that you are satisfied as well. Good luck, and remember that only practice makes perfect. Don't ever forget the importance of foreplay.

The Importance Of Foreplay

Traditionally, "foreplay" was considered to be something that a man had to do to get his partner ready for sexual intercourse. Today, foreplay has become an integral part of the whole lovemaking experience. It is true that impromptu sexual encounters without foreplay can sometimes be some of the best sexual experiences, but in general, most women will agree that good sexual encounters mean that you learn the importance of foreplay. A more vigilant form of foreplay will bring increased pleasure to both partners, and make the whole lovemaking experience more enjoyable. spice up your sex life Especially with age, both partners will need a little extra spice to get fully aroused and achieve maximum pleasure. Hence you need to learn the importance of foreplay. The man will need to prolong foreplay to get an erection and the woman will need the same to become properly lubricated. Most sex experts agree that there is no such thing as spending too much time on foreplay. The trick is to start intercourse when both partners are peaking with excitement and are having a hard time controlling their desires.what is foreplay? You've gotta learn the importance of foreplay, which can encompass a wide range of activities, including hugging, fondling, undressing, kissing, petting, and performing oral sex. Why is foreplay so important? First of all, men who cuddle and kiss their partners and know how to enjoy sensitive foreplay will often find that their partners will not only enjoy sexual intercourse more, but will also see their partners reach orgasm more easily. Most women need prolonged stimulation in order to reach a state of complete arousal, and foreplay will provide them with the required stimulation. no ultimate foreplay There is no such thing as the ultimate foreplay, and it is not about pressing the right buttons in the right order. It is about understanding what makes your partner get hot and delivering the things that make her experience intense pleasure. All women are different. Some get off on being lightly kissed all over their necks while others enjoy direct oral stimulation. There are many ways to give your partner extreme sensations, but one thing is for sure: It all begins in her brain. Simply tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate her sexy body. By complimenting her appearance, especially if her confidence level is low, you are giving her added security and excitement, as well as giving her good reasons to go all out with the foreplay.

Give Her Multiple Orgasms part 2

Try different variations If you know the kind of stimulation she likes, such as clitoral, vaginal or G-spot, it may be wise to keep it that way and just change the position or technique. This will help you give her multiple orgasms. For example, if your girl achieved her last orgasm quickly and easily through clitoral stimulation, hit the same trigger, but try a different angle or speed. This will effectively aid her in reaching another intense orgasm. Conversely, if she has received a lot of clitoral stimulation she may want a break from her little bud being constantly massaged or manipulated. In this case, a vaginal or G-spot rub may hit the spot. Understand that after orgasm some women may experience an almost uncomfortably or unbearably sensitive clitoris. She may not want continued touching in that area. When and if this occurs, attend to another sweet spot while her bundle of nerves recovers. Here, communication continues to be a key point. Make it about her Help her to understand that the night is all about her pleasure. Make her feel that you have the entire night to devote to her satisfaction. Pay no attention to the time it takes. Your patience will have multiple payoffs (i.e. give her multiple orgasms), but if she feels rushed, she will be less inclined to relax and feel comfortable -- feelings that are not conducive to achieving multiples orgasms. An excellent way to emphasize how much you enjoy making her feel good and to show her that it really is all about her is to bring her to orgasm before penetration. She will feel that you really do want her to reach great heights throughout the night, and that you consider your satisfaction secondary -- dont worry, whens she has had enough youll get yours. multiple miracles Remember: Orgasms are for her all night. If she wants a lot of little explosions or one huge inferno, it is for her to decide. This isnt the time to flex your sexual prowess and try to make your woman come over and over if she doesnt want to -- she might prefer the one peak. Remember that the goal is her satisfaction, not your egos inflation by hearing her scream out repeatedly. Just listen to her or ask. Dont assume that you know what she wants and how she wants it. Take your time and you'll give her multiple orgasms.

Give Her Multiple Orgasms

It seems that everyone is talking about multiple orgasms these days. Whats more is that its almost assumed that men have the necessary skills and abilities to give a woman an O face and make her come again and again. Theres a lot of pressure today for men to perform well and to know how to give a girl what she wants. For some women multiple orgasms are like candy: theyre addictive, sweet and very satisfying. Orgasms that occur in succession, a steady stream of one after the other, are called the serial multiple. The sequential orgasm can be like a roller coaster ride interspersed with peaks and lulls with a few minutes between each incredible burst of ecstasy. Female orgasms can also be like scaling Mount Everest, a continuous buildup to one incredible peak. All forms of orgasms are attainable, but it is up to the womans biology and preference to do so. It is folly to assume that she wants to ride that roller coaster or just scale Everest once in an evening. It is very important to communicate with her about what she wants and desires. Talk to her, listen to her and let her know that you want to pleasure her in the ways she wants. If she wants you to give her multiple orgasms, keep reading and put yourself in the know. Create an atmosphere Her comfort is paramount. In order to give her multiple orgasms, shell need to surrender herself to the experience, and shell need to be at ease to do so. You can help calm her mind and quell her inhibitions with a little environmental preparation thats sure to put her on the road to sexual bliss. Clean sheets, downy pillows, tissues by the bed, soft lighting, and subtle scents in the air will aid in creating that easy atmosphere. Take a few minutes to clean your pad, take a shower and shave before she arrives. Also, set your cell phone to silent or turn it off. Finally, if she is a new or newer lover; cut the cord and remove any pictures that remain of your ex. Sweet-talk her While her body rests from its latest mind-blowing peak, keep the momentum and energy going with your mouth, mind, lips, and tongue. OK, you could go down on her, but Im talking about keeping her mind sexually engaged and her body humming with sweet words. You will be able to maintain her physical desire if you describe and tell her how amazing she feels, how incredible she looks as she explodes, and how shes driving you insane with her beautiful body. Be creative and inventive with your words. Women enjoy feeling a strong and firm grip on their body, so take hold of her as you ready her body for yet another orgasm. Shell appreciate your pillow talk and physical desire. The sexier and more comfortable she feels, the more shell let go.

Understanding The Clitoris part 2

Vibrator We're sure you've all heard about how your girl's vibrator can be your best friend. Her battery-powered playthings can definitely help you be in more places at once, which is always a good thing. However, have you thought about ways to ensure clitoral stimulation during intercourse? Lining up your pubic bone to hit her in the right spot can be difficult to figure out and having her "help out" while you penetrate means that she has less hands available to be all over you, so why not try the newest vibrating product to help you both out? Many companies now offer stretchy rings that you can slide onto your member that come with the added bonus of a small knobby protrusion with vibrating capabilities that can ensure an extra boost for her with every thrust. Lubricants The focus of a lot of creams and sexual potions usually centers on the tingling effect or the numbing effect, depending on what you're looking for. While it's true that lubrication is key to making her experience pleasure rather than discomfort when you tackle her clitoris, it's best not to get too caught up in the newest, most flavorful or scientifically superior bottle on the shelf. A plain old personal lubricant on its own can be your best friend when it comes to ensuring an optimal experience for your partner. Don't believe us? Try masturbating with no slippery aid. Enough said.Mouth All women appreciate that you've decided to get up close and personal -- really, they do -- and your mouth (and tongue) are your best aids to helping her achieve an earth-shattering orgasm every time. The built-in lubrication and warmth are obvious pros in favor of oral sex, as is your ability to mix up the sensations with your lips and tongue teamwork. If you're looking to move past the basic flick and swirl and show that you really understand the clitoris, try creating a bit of suction by taking her clitoris into your mouth with some gentle sucking or pulling away when she's close to orgasm, and gently blowing on it to heighten her sensation and prolong the encounter. Penis We don't want to ignore your favorite sex toy when we're discussing her orgasm and understanding the clitoris; your penis can get in the game and help out during foreplay to really get her going as well. During intercourse, your member might not get too much face time with her clitoris, so it's worth taking a bit of time to introduce them -- they're sure to be fast friends. Before sex, why not try having your woman lay on her back with her legs clamped together tightly (on her stomach works too) and slide your member between her legs right where they meet with her pelvis. Moving back and forth in this position lets your penis rub between her labia and, more importantly, directly over her clitoris. Not only does this trick feel great for both of you, it's sure to heighten your collective arousal and result in possible orgasms for everyone.no longer so elusive Understanding the clitoris is the sign of a man that is invested in his partner and her pleasure, both of which are noble qualities. Even though it seems like a bit of a mystery, there's nothing to be afraid of, and many things to gain, namely a happy and satisfied woman. And remember, a satisfied woman is going to be more interested in making sure that you're satisfied too, and you can't ask for more than that.

Understanding The Clitoris

What You Need To Know The clitoris is the most sensitive of women's erogenous zones. There are numerous ways to stimulate the clitoris, including sex toys and oral sex. Sex toys can help you stimulate her clitoris while having intercourse. "The vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm." If we told you that there was a way to make a woman putty in your hands, would you listen? Guess what, guys: We've figured out exactly what it takes to satisfy your woman -- in the bedroom at least. You might think that a few kisses and the presentation of your proud erect member might be enough to make her quiver, but you might be missing the most important factor in your, and your woman's, sexual satisfaction. Women have so many erogenous zones that it can get a little overwhelming for a guy trying to figure out the magic combination to her satisfaction. You've already gotten a play-by-play overview of the most popular -- her G-spot -- so now it's time to fully consider the never-fail, go-to spot for her orgasm. It's time to focus on the most important square inch on her body: her clitoris. Understanding the clitoris is the key to a woman eager to come back for more. Get comfortable and pay attention, here's everything you need to know when it comes to understanding the clitoris. about the clitoris Just in case you need a refresher course, here are the basic facts: Her clitoris is a small bud-like formation that is located slightly above the opening to her vagina, at the top of her inner labia. Clitoris size and shape differs from woman to woman, but it is generally between 1/8 to 3/8 of an inch in size. Her clitoris is the equivalent of your penis; it's packed with nerve endings and becomes engorged when she's aroused. Vital info: The vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm -- penetration just isn't always enough on its own. Sounds like a good enough reason to makes its acquaintance, doesn't it? how to play with it Language Sexual stimulation is largely a cerebral activity for women; turning her on requires attention to her brain, not just her body. Even if you and your woman have yet to venture into talking dirty to each other, rest assured that whispering in her ear about what you plan on doing to her, or how turned on you are, can be enough to get her wanting more. The more aroused you can get her before the clothes come off, the easier your next job will be and this is key to understanding the clitoris. Fingers It goes without saying that clean hands and neat fingernails are key if you plan on going exploring, but what you might not realize is that diving in and honing in on her clitoris to start with might not be your best plan of attack. Your fingers are nimble: use them to your advantage. Stroke her thighs on your way and caress the areas on either side of her clitoris, including her labia, before gently making the first contact. A lot of women may find direct pressure uncomfortable, so try aiming just below or just above her clitoris and making small circular movements. Because the clitoris actually extends well into her entire pelvic region, rest assured that her enjoyment will only be enhanced by full manual coverage. Just a note on pressure: Be sure not to get too rough with her sensitive areas before you get to know what she likes and are clear on your understanding of the clitoris. A light touch will be more successful on most women, and those who need a little more are probably going to get frustrated with your restraint and beg for a harder touch. Sounds like a win-win situation to us. Understanding the clitoris can be fun and stimulating for you both...

Positions To Help You Last Longer part 2

Last-longer position 2: Face me Another great position that'll help most men last longer in the sack is the "sitting inside each other" position. You sit with your legs crossed and she sits atop you doing the same and controlling the tempo. The great thing about this position is that you get to rub her back or pull her by the shoulders and suck on her breasts with ease. As well, she can bite into your neck or rub your back while you both enjoy a constant sexual pace. When you become accustomed to this situation and learn adequate penis control, then you can give her some new instructions and get her to squat up and down on your member while she puts her hands on your knees for balance. Last-longer position 3: Ride 'em cowgirl Although some guys lose control, considering they don't have any power when the woman on top does all the maneuvering, many men find a woman's back-and-forth thrusting (rather than up and down) very comfortable. Allowing her to take control of the situation can help you concentrate on keeping your orgasm at bay. As well, you get to watch your sweetheart bounce around while she does her thing. Once the thrusting thing becomes child's play for you, you can try letting her squat. But be warned: The squatting position is likely to make you lose your mind (and your semen) a lot faster. That's because her vagina tends to hug your penis rather tightly, and your genitals and hers are the only two body parts that are touching. Last-longer position 4: Front-to-back This position should usually be reserved for morning sex. With her back facing you, lift up one of her legs and insert yourself inside her warm fleshy area. Although the initial feeling may be that of tightness, if you brace yourself, the feeling will become more comforting. Many guys are able to control themselves and last longer in this position. last longer with these positions Move slowly and don't rush things. Getting overly excited won't do you any good so just keep things calm and at an unhurried, steady tempo. She'll be impressed with your ability to control yourself. Obviously, these positions won't work wonders for everyone, but they will definitely feel great for many. Remember, if you have a problem, see your doctor promptly and don't play the game of denial. And there you have it, some easy ways to keep her satisfied and get a little satisfaction of your own at the same time.

Positions To Help You Last Longer

Positions To Help You Last Longer Are you tired of losing control every time you make love to your woman? Do you want to discover sex positions to help you last longer and that will keep you erect and feeling the good friction without the "Oh no, I'm already at the edge" feeling? Well, today is going to be a very happy day for men out there who get too excited around the vaginal playground. These tips and position suggestions will allow you to delve into your sexual desires without fearing that the finale is just a pump or two away. So, before you burst just thinking about it, we'll get to our positions to help you last longer. Beyond positions to help you last longer Keep in mind that it takes more than just sex positions to help you last longer. First off, you need to keep a positive frame of mind. Don't turn it into a self-fulfilling prophecy by continuously telling yourself that you can't do it. You can, especially if you believe you can. If you have some sort of medical drawback, like erectile dysfunction, then these positions to help you last longer obviously won't work for you. Be realistic and get yourself to a professional as soon as you can to optimize your sex life. Positions can be a game Turning foreplay into a game of lustful sexual containment can be more fun than the actual sex itself. Make your foreplay last. After all, when have you ever heard a woman saying: "He kisses my lips and goes down on me for way too long?" That's what we thought. Enjoy the time you have together and stop focusing on the actual sex because that'll likely cause you to get more nervous, and end up leaving her in the bathroom with a vibrating shower nozzle. Make it a total body experience, not just a penis one -- oh, and learn to please her in the shower as well. Lasting longer can mean some one-on-one You've all heard it before: Practice makes perfect. Don't be shy guys, you did it when you first discovered that something other than urine comes out of your penis, and you can do it now. Masturbation is not a four-letter word (there we go, stating the obvious) and if you want to understand your own waterworks, you're going to have to play the "getting to know you" game with yourself. By stroking yourself and figuring out at which point you feel like ejaculating, you can learn how to maintain your erection and avoid premature incidents. Also, you can bring yourself to the point where you feel like you're about to lose it and stop yourself until the feeling goes away. Keep it up until an adequate amount of time has passed and then let the rivers flow freely.

Sexual Healing part 2

Your body is always in motion, emptying, refilling and replenishing. When the prostate fluid is stagnant, it can build up a toxic load from the rest of your body by simple absorption. This toxic load can ultimately lead to a dysfunctional or enlarged prostate and cancer. Regularly emptying your prostate gland via ejaculation is a good way to keep your prostate healthy, and thus provides sexual healing. The sexual healing doesnt stop here, however. Prostate massage is your friend. To fully empty the prostate of all prostatic fluid, you need to give it a digital (or other) aid. Emptying the prostate means your body will produce a whole new batch of fluids, as well as give your prostate gland a vitality boost with fresh oxygen and nutrients, and maybe a great orgasm to boot.Sex boosts your immune system Wilkes University, in Pennsylvania, has shown that people who have sex twice a week have higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A. This antibody is known to boost the immune system. Another study at the Ohio University College of Osteopathic Medicine found that orgasms boost levels of T3 and T4 lymphocyte cells (white blood cells that produce antibodies that fight infection) by as much as 20%. Sex is a pain killer It is well known that sexual arousal and orgasm produce endorphins -- our feel good factor. Endorphins are known pain killers, but they are not the principal factor. Oxytocin, the latest culprit in sexual healing, has become the new pet for scientists studying sexual responses in humans. This chemical is also thought to be at least partially responsible for bonding between partners. This has also been observed in animals, and sheds some light on monogamous and polygamous animals (and humans). In numerous studies, oxytocin has been shown to increase pain thresholds by up to 115% -- thats why when you get your butt slapped during sex play, it doesnt hurt like it should. Sex reduces depression There is a quip that is not particularly funny: Depression or sex? Choose. Depression often leaves men devoid of sexual desire, and antidepressants are the biological killers of sex drives. A 1999 study found that sex hormones are secreted at different rates; testosterone production is decreased in depressed men. However, according the American Psychological Society, men (and women) who have sex regularly can ward off depression simply by getting active in the sack. Exercise in general makes us feel good and boosts mood. It regulates appetite and hormones, and because of the increase in oxygen and nutrients in the brain, it has a normalizing effect on the entire body. Exercise (and, therefore, sex) reduces the amount of cortisol in the brain, which is the chemical responsible for stress. Oxytocin, another important chemical involved with sexual arousal and orgasm, increases feelings of intimacy, which can ward off loneliness and sadness and help us feel closer to our partners. It also reduces stress and tension. A recent study in Australia found that depressed women have more sex more often (both single and in relationships), and include more bells and whistles in their copulation (foreplay, between-play and after-play) than their happier counterparts. This was thought to be due to the increased intimacy during sex that made the women feel better, albeit temporarily. However, according the American Psychological Society, men (and women) who have sex regularly can ward off depression simply by getting active in the sack. Exercise in general makes us feel good and boosts mood. It regulates appetite and hormones, and because of the increase in oxygen and nutrients in the brain, it has a normalizing effect on the entire body. Exercise (and, therefore, sex) reduces the amount of cortisol in the brain, which is the chemical responsible for stress. Oxytocin, another important chemical involved with sexual arousal and orgasm, increases feelings of intimacy, which can ward off loneliness and sadness and help us feel closer to our partners. It also reduces stress and tension. A recent study in Australia found that depressed women have more sex more often (both single and in relationships), and include more bells and whistles in their copulation (foreplay, between-play and after-play) than their happier counterparts. This was thought to be due to the increased intimacy during sex that made the women feel better, albeit temporarily. Is there such a thing as too much sex? Yes! When a penis becomes erect, no blood flows in or out -- the blood inside the penis at that time must provide all the oxygen required to keep the penis alive. That is why the penis must have a rest. It is during this time of flaccidity that the penis regroups and replenishes oxygen and nutrients into the tissues. Viagra and similar drugs can cause an issue with oxygen supply by maintaining erections for unnaturally long times; this is known as priapism, which causes the slow miserly and painful death of an engorged penis. sexy medicine Sex is one of societies most misunderstood activities, which is somewhat amusing since most people do it for a reasonable portion of their adult life, and if they arent doing it, they wish they were. It doesnt take a scientist to know that sex is good for us and provides a dose or two of sexual healing. However, too much sex, or too little sex, can be unhelpful to our health; moderation is the key.

Sexual Healing

Here are the ways that sex can improve your health We all know that sex makes us feel good; it is common knowledge that arousal and orgasm trigger processes in our bodies (mainly feeling good and relaxed), but what are these sexual healing processes, and how far do they go? Do they really help us achieve better health and happier lives in the long term? Although there are precious few studies on the links between sex and death, a recent Welsh study has shown that men who have regular sex (three times a week or more) live longer than their one- or two-time-a-week counterparts. There may be a few factors that influence this, like sick men have less sex in the first place, and healthier men having more sex due to their vigor. It is difficult to measure accurately; however, the study has pointed out something that has been assumed -- but unproven -- for a long time: Intercourse has a protective sexual healing effect on human beings. It is proven beyond a doubt that married couples live longer than singles, though this again can be due to a number of factors. More stable living habits (food, rest, etc.) and companionship rate highly among reasons for this. Here are some findings on the relation between intercourse and sexual healing. Read about them, and then, for your healths sake, get busy. Sex reduces the risk of heart disease A study published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology found that men with erectile dysfunction were 58% more likely to develop cardiovascular disease. This does not prove, however, that having regular sex reduces the risk of heart disease, only that the reverse may be true. Factors that predispose someone to erectile dysfunction and heart disease are the same; your erections, like your heart, rely predominantly on the ability of your blood to reach the right places and stay there. This requires your veins and arteries to dilate and contract in all the right places and generally behave properly. Smoking, poor eating habits, lack of exercise, and other unhelpful lifestyle choices significantly impact your bodys ability to perform these functions by impairing your veins and arteries. So, its not the sex that provides sexual healing and reduces the risk of heart disease and erectile dysfunction; the way you treat your body impacts sex. More research has focused on the hormonal affects of libido, arousal and orgasm. DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) and testosterone are both key hormones in libido. Both these hormones have been linked to reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease, and are protective of the heart muscle after a heart attack. Doctors do not generally deem sex after a heart attack to be unsafe -- this may be why. Sex reduces the risk of prostate cancer Some cardiologists believe they see a link between lack of ejaculation and prostate cancer. A little understanding about how the prostate works tells us the prostate produces and stores ejaculate fluid. It is fair to say that storing fluid in one place for a long period of time is not a great idea -- just take a look at a pond with no water flow in or out.

Small Penis Sex Positions part 2

The snake For this small penis sex position, youll want your woman lying flat on her belly with her legs closed. For the sake of ease and comfort, slip a pillow beneath her hips until her bottom arches upward. Keeping your knees bent, straddle her hips while maintaining an upright position and place your genitals just behind her bottom. Gently spread her thighs just enough to allow penetration and slide your way in. Take care to keep your weight off her body during intercourse; if you feel the need to brace yourself against something, bend forward until youre able to touch the bed -- it wont detract much from the position. Bite-sized tip: If you really want a tight fit, hold her thighs together as you penetrate her. This is also an excellent position from which to administer a sexy spanking. The rabbit ears Lay your woman down on her back, spread her thighs and draw her legs up until her knees are close to her ears. Slip a pillow under her bottom, as this will place her vagina at an angle better suited for this small penis sex position. When you penetrate her, it will feel as though youre filling her vagina completely. Once sex starts to get wild, however, it can be difficult for a woman to hold her legs in that position. We suggest using your own arms to hold her knees in place; simply place either arm in the crook of her knee before you brace your hands on the bed. Bite-sized tip: This is an excellent position for her to masturbate in. You may want to encourage her to slip a hand between your bodies to stimulate her clitoris while youre rocking her world from inside. The V-formation With your woman lying flat on her back, move between her thighs and enter her as you normally would from a kneeling position. Next, raise her legs and grasp either one around the ankle; youre going to elevate her legs entirely and then spread them apart until they form a V. Youll be able to thrust quite deeply from this small penis sex position, so you may want to gain leverage by bracing your palms against the wall or a headboard. To do this without changing the position, simply drape her legs over your shoulders. Bite-sized tip: This position will give you an excellent opportunity to tease her clitoris. Free one of your hands up by resting one of her legs on your shoulder, and stimulate her clit until she orgasms. prime positions While its true that society tends to place a great deal of importance on size, the simple truth is that a penis of any size can bring a woman to orgasm, provided the man makes the most of what he has. Yes, that might mean you need to stimulate her clit during intercourse, but thats often necessary with a large penis as well. Foreplay is what matters most; one good orgasm from a mans tongue will pretty much win any woman over. Combine that with our small penis sex positions and your woman will be more than satisfied, we promise.

Small Penis Sex Positions

The average erect penis is estimated to be somewhere around six inches in length. If youre one of the millions who fall a bit short of this statistic, you may have concerns about size in relation to your sexual performance. Fret not: While its true that size can have its advantages, its not really the length that matters -- its the width. Additionally, women dont particularly enjoy having their cervices rammed into, which often happens when a man is overly endowed. There is nothing sexy about painful intercourse, and thats precisely what many women complain of when a mans penis is too large. Believe it or not, the right combination of foreplay and stimulation can make a woman worship a small penis just as readily as a large one. Read on as we discuss the best small penis sex positions and how to make the most of them. before you get inside Obviously, theres a great deal more to sex than just penetration, and most men fully recognize the benefits of foreplay. The man with a smaller-sized penis should take even greater advantage of this, prolonging foreplay until his partner is fully and completely aroused; the closer she is to orgasm at the start of actual penetration, the easier it will be for her to climax via one of our small penis sex positions. Focus on foreplay Foreplay should include anything and everything your woman enjoys. Kissing and caressing are always appreciated, but dont limit yourself to the old standbys. Not if you want to really rock her world. Toss in some sexy pillow talk to start, and be sure to have her favorite sex toys on hand. If shes a bit kinky, you may want to try some sensual biting or even a bit of a spanking. The key here is to lavish her with the kind of attention you know she responds well to; you want to get her so hot that she cant help begging for sex. before you get inside Obviously, theres a great deal more to sex than just penetration, and most men fully recognize the benefits of foreplay. The man with a smaller-sized penis should take even greater advantage of this, prolonging foreplay until his partner is fully and completely aroused; the closer she is to orgasm at the start of actual penetration, the easier it will be for her to climax via one of our small penis sex positions. Focus on foreplay Foreplay should include anything and everything your woman enjoys. Kissing and caressing are always appreciated, but dont limit yourself to the old standbys. Not if you want to really rock her world. Toss in some sexy pillow talk to start, and be sure to have her favorite sex toys on hand. If shes a bit kinky, you may want to try some sensual biting or even a bit of a spanking. The key here is to lavish her with the kind of attention you know she responds well to; you want to get her so hot that she cant help begging for sex.before you get inside Obviously, theres a great deal more to sex than just penetration, and most men fully recognize the benefits of foreplay. The man with a smaller-sized penis should take even greater advantage of this, prolonging foreplay until his partner is fully and completely aroused; the closer she is to orgasm at the start of actual penetration, the easier it will be for her to climax via one of our small penis sex positions. Focus on foreplay Foreplay should include anything and everything your woman enjoys. Kissing and caressing are always appreciated, but dont limit yourself to the old standbys. Not if you want to really rock her world. Toss in some sexy pillow talk to start, and be sure to have her favorite sex toys on hand. If shes a bit kinky, you may want to try some sensual biting or even a bit of a spanking. The key here is to lavish her with the kind of attention you know she responds well to; you want to get her so hot that she cant help begging for sex. Stimulate the clitoris Prior to intercourse, youll want to spend as much quality time with the clitoris as she can handle. Whether you do this via oral sex or manual stimulation, make sure she climaxes at least once before you move on to penetration; this will help alleviate any performance anxiety you might experience once youre ready to try the following small penis sex positions. the positions The doggie When performed at the correct angle, the doggie can make even the smallest penis feel quite large. Youll want her positioned in such a way that shes able to comfortably place her head and shoulders on the pillow, while having her bottom raised in the air. To help create the most effective angle, her back should be arched and her thighs should be drawn together. Not only is this the easiest small penis sex position on our list, but its also one of the most popular. Stimulate the clitoris Prior to intercourse, youll want to spend as much quality time with the clitoris as she can handle. Whether you do this via oral sex or manual stimulation, make sure she climaxes at least once before you move on to penetration; this will help alleviate any performance anxiety you might experience once youre ready to try the following small penis sex positions. the positions The doggie When performed at the correct angle, the doggie can make even the smallest penis feel quite large. Youll want her positioned in such a way that shes able to comfortably place her head and shoulders on the pillow, while having her bottom raised in the air. To help create the most effective angle, her back should be arched and her thighs should be drawn together. Not only is this the easiest small penis sex position on our list, but its also one of the most popular. Bite-sized tip: Lean forward during penetration, maintaining as much physical contact as you can comfortably manage; this will keep things intimate, enabling her to reach her sexual peak as quickly as possible.

Morning Sex part 2

Gently wake her Your woman most likely does not want to be greeted immediately by your erect penis waving in her face, so take it easy. Touch her softly and slowly. Give her little kisses all over her face and body. Let your fingers play with her hair. This sensual approach will ensure that she wakes up in a positive, loving mood and makes it much more likely that shell take pleasure in morning sex. Make her feel sexy Your girl may not feel very sexy when she first wakes up, so to get her in the mood be sure to tell her how beautiful she is -- even if shes a bit of a mess. Ignore the disheveled hair, the pillow creases on her face and her less-than-pleasant morning breath, and tell her how badly you want her. If you find it difficult to keep a straight face while telling her how hot she is first thing in the morning, try using a position that doesnt put you face to face. Spooning her from behind is romantic and sensual, while it also conveniently allows you to avoid the misery of morning breath. start your day with a bang Getting busy in the morning can be an excellent start to your day. It gets the feel-good hormones pumping and puts a smile on your face, making it much easier to put up with whatever hassles your day brings. Like anything, having morning sex every single day will get old after a while, especially for your girlfriend who typically does not peak sexually in the morning hours like you do, so be sure to mix it up and get busy at other times of the day too. And there you have it; some easy ways to keep her satisfied and get a little satisfaction of your own at the same time.

Morning Sex

One of the many differences between the sexuality of men and women is that men tend to enjoy morning sex, while women mostly prefer to keep bedroom activity reserved for nighttime. This probably has a lot to do with what is referred to as nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT), which causes a man without erectile dysfunction to have three to five erections as he sleeps. NPT is more commonly referred to as morning wood or morning glory. Whatever you call it, waking up with an erection is as good a reason as any to initiate a little early action. Unfortunately, your girl may not be in the mood the minute she opens her eyes, but if you approach it properly she will very quickly be just as into morning sex as you are. Prepare the night before In order to avoid having to get out of bed in the morning before initiating your early lovin you should do some preparation the night before. Keep some breath mints near the bed so you can quickly take care of your dragon breath before things start to get sexy. Also, be sure to go to the bathroom before you go to sleep to prevent having to get up to take a leak as soon as you wake up. Dont forget to have a condom ready to go within arms reach too. Set your internal alarm Its important to wake up early enough to get a little action in before either of you are due at work. So, set your internal alarm clock to wake you up with enough time to enjoy a little morning make-out time to start your day. Its best if you can wake up before her so you can rouse her into consciousness with your smooth moves. Remember, you might be ready to go, but it could take a while for her to get warmed up, so factor this in when youre figuring out how much time you will need for your morning sex. Morning sex could mean the difference between a good day and a great day ...

Sexual Body Language part 2

Arms splayed out If she's holding herself close she may not be feeling wild abandon -- her arms may be around you, her hands may be on your chest, above your head, wherever, except they're being held in close to her own body. If she's on top she may need her arms to maneuver herself and give herself some leverage to get the best angle. This is certainly not a definitive gesture, but can be useful. Her body should be responding to the situation at hand. She shouldn't be worried about covering herself up or where her arms are. If her arms are stretched wide, either held out to the side or splayed out on the bed sheets, you can bet her sexual body language is telling you you're right where you need to be and she's comfortable (and enjoying the ride). Vaginal muscle movement You have one of your most sensitive parts inside one of her most sensitive parts -- with each movement inside of her you can feel the walls of her vagina, the muscles and flesh. The vaginal wall is an incredibly strong muscle and she will probably use this to some extent for her own pleasure during sex. You may also feel the contracting and relaxing during orgasm -- her vagina spasms and this will clench you to some degree -- but not always, so dont use that as a benchmark. Some women do have great control, and those who do are likely to have better sex and orgasms in general. If you dont feel any clenching, dont panic. You may know already by the feel of her vagina when she's not far away from orgasm -- she may let you enter further, or the overall sensation may be "just right" for you both. Only you can tell, so pay careful attention to her sexual body language and whats going on inside of her. learn the language of lovin' Women love sex as much as men do, but what's sometimes missing is the self-knowledge, and of course a skilled partner who brings out the erotic best in himself and her. If you're unsure as to whether your lover is enjoying herself during sex, there is a need for more investigation. Communicate verbally and non-verbally; ask her what she wants you to do, carefully watch and listen to her responses to what youre doing and dont assume that what worked for your other girlfriends is going to work for her. Every woman (and man) has different tastes and wont necessarily respond to the same touches, so try a few different things and dont stick to a routine. Experiment, tease, tantalize, change positions. When you hear her moan, youll know you've hit just the right spot, so don't stop there.

Sexual Body Language

Sometimes it can be hard to tell whats going on with your girl: Is she enjoying herself? Are you doing it right? Is she satisfied? Women can be hard to read, especially when it comes to sex. Though, all in all, if she is getting off you are bound to know about it on some level. If youre not so sure and need some reassurance, check out her more subtle signs -- her sexual body language. She will show you -- hopefully in no uncertain terms -- how youre performing. Her body will display some overall signs of arousal that she cant fake, but remember every woman is different. So, yes, it can often be just as difficult to get nonverbal feedback on your performance when there are so many variables. So, we've put together some general sexual body language signs that she's getting exactly what she wants from you. Rapid breathing Our breath when resting is a very peaceful and tranquil movement of air in and out of our lungs. It has the delightful title of "inspiration" for breathing in, and "expiration" for breathing out. When a woman is turned on, however, this breath comes in urgent puffs and probably has some involuntary moans escape with it as the air is forced quickly past her vocal cords. The increase in heart rate when her body prepares for orgasm means her internal organs and muscles are demanding more oxygen. If you can hear her breath change, youre on the right track. If you can feel her heart thumping, youre well on your way. This is her sexual body language giving you signals that she's aroused. However, if she's breathing normally after having her "big orgasm," perhaps shes a big faker. General writhing around and body movement If your girl is curling her toes and writhing against you, chances are she's probably enjoying herself. Grinding and pushing against you means that she's really getting into it. If she's lying there limp, then things probably arent happening for her. Try changing positions, or stop entering her and warm her up from the beginning with your mouth or hands and see how her sexual body language progresses from there. Thrusting hips When she meets your thrusts, youre doing something right. It's pretty safe to say that if she's matching your body movements and is in time with you, then she's getting something out of it. Good sex is often very synchronized, as that is how our bodies are designed to produce orgasm; repeated movements in the right spot build to a climaxing. The trouble is finding the right spot, of which there are many. If she isnt meeting your thrusts then her sexual body language is telling you that she wants something else, so change positions and see how she responds.

Get Her To Have Dirty Sex part 2

Play a sex game So youre both open to the idea of getting dirtier in bed together. Now, how do you get started? Talking about it is a lot easier than actually introducing the nastiness into your sex life. A sex game might be just the thing to help you get started. Visit a sex shop and check out the card and board games they have for sale. These are usually aimed at couples that want to add some excitement to their love life and they should give you some ideas. Or, use your imagination and make up your own game together at home. The idea is to get both of you to open up and start trying things out. If all else fails, you can always fall back on the old standard of Truth or Dare. Watch porn or read erotic stories Get each other in the mood by watching porn stars get it on or by reading some stimulating erotic fiction. Even if shes not normally into watching porn, when youre trying to get dirty with each other, she may be open to incorporating a video or two. Erotic writing of a less-than-professional caliber can be found all over the internet, but there are also quality sexy stories available from people with actual skill. Take a trip to the bookstore together and pick out something that looks promising. Initiate You are probably going to have to be the one to make the first move if you want to get a little nastier in the bedroom. Even if youve piqued her interest, shes still not likely to start things off herself. Start talking dirty, set the mood and hopefully shell follow your lead. she may surprise you For most women, revealing their private, filthy thoughts may be difficult, let alone actually acting on them with you. Once you get her comfortable talking about it, disclose some of your own secrets ideas, gather some inspiration and try new things. You may be surprised to find out that your girl is more of a freak in bed than you wouldve guessed.

Get Her To Have Dirty Sex

The minds of men are frequently occupied with sexual ideas that would repulse the average woman. While this is the typical case, dont assume that your girlfriend doesnt have a dirty side. One of the advantages of being in a long-term relationship is the opportunity to share your sexual fantasies with each other and try them out. Unfortunately, it may be a challenge to get your girl to reveal her nasty inner thoughts. In order to determine if the girl youre with is open to experimenting with dirty sex, start off by testing the waters with a few questions on the more innocent end of the sexual spectrum. Try: Have you ever tied anyone up or been tied up? Do you own any sex toys? What do you fantasize about when you masturbate? What is something youve always wanted to try? These questions should get her to open up and start sharing some intimate details of her sexual personality with you. Then you can lead her down the path to dirtiness and hopefully get her to have dirty sex. If she gets scared off or grossed out by these questions, you have yourself a non-kinky girl -- too bad for you Still, even the innocent can be corrupted. Here are our suggestions to help you get her to have dirty sex. Tell her about your fantasies If you get the feeling that shell be receptive to taking a darker turn in your sex life together, take the first step by revealing some of your secret fantasies. Dole out a little at a time and see how she reacts. Hopefully, shell share some of her inner thoughts in return; when she does, make sure you show plenty of enthusiasm for her ideas if you want to get her to have dirty sex. An important thing to keep in mind when having this sharing session is to keep it in the realm of fantasy. Dont start telling her about dirty sex youve had in the past with other women or your whole plot will come to a screeching halt. Make it new for both of you Approach the dirty experimentation like its new for both of you. Think of something youve never tried before and suggest that you try it together. If she knows youre starting out on a level playing field, shell be more likely to let her inhibitions go and get wild with you. If you want to get her to have dirty sex with you and you act like youre an expert in the area, chances are shes going to freeze up on you instead of enjoying herself.

Kissing Women: Their Favorite Places

Chances are good that you are not using one of the best tools in your sexual arsenal to its full potential. This secret weapon is your mouth. Were not just talking about oral sex here, although you should be giving her oral pleasure on a regular basis if you want to be a good lover, and were going to go beyond kissing on the mouth in this article, which you should have mastered by now if you want to kiss her anywhere else. Your mouth can be applied to various other parts of her body by kissing, licking, nibbling, biting, and sucking. Anywhere you touch her with your hands will most likely feel even better when stimulated by a warm, wet mouth. When it comes to kissing women, some of their favorite places are obvious, while others are frequently overlooked. Ears The ears are an often-neglected area of the body that can be the site of intense pleasure for her and using your mouth is the best way to stimulate them. Gentle nibbling on the earlobe is a reliable way to send shivers down her spine, but you should also try lightly brushing your lips against her ear, which will rouse the soft, fine hairs there creating waves of tingly pleasure. Back of the neck One of the easiest and most dependable ways to get her in the mood is to place your mouth on the back of her neck. This works especially well if you take her by surprise. When shes at the sink doing dishes or working on the computer, approach her quietly from behind, sweep her hair off the back of her neck and kiss her there. She will soon forget her task and want more. Face There are few things more personal than kissing a woman on the face. Your warm, fuzzy feelings for her can be expressed by placing sweet, light kisses on her cheeks, forehead, jaw line, even her nose and closed eyelids. But dont lick her face. Just dont. Its icky, not sexy. No biting either. Her face should be treated with tenderness and reverence. Collarbone While her clothes are still on, one of the most intimate places you can lay some kisses is along her collarbone. A womans exposed collarbone is sexy and your mouth on it makes her think of your mouth on more private parts of her body. So start off with kisses there before you move on to places you cant reach while shes fully clothed. Hips Her hips are more sensitive than you would guess. It could be because they are so close to the center of her physical pleasure. Whatever the reason, kissing, licking and nibbling at her hips will send currents of delight down to her toes and up to the top of her head. Dont neglect this place she wants your mouth to be. Breasts Putting your mouth on her breasts can be intensely sexy, but doing it wrong can turn her right off. Kissing, licking and sucking are all recommended and even some gentle biting can be acceptable as long as you take it easy. Her breasts are delicate, so dont forget that you have to treat them appropriately. Unless shes into hardcore S&M, hard sucking and biting are no-nos. Her breasts should not have bruises when you are done with them. Also, remember that her nipples are not the only parts that need some attention. Use your mouth all over her breasts for maximum effect. No-go areas No matter where your mouth ends up, its probably going to make her feel good. However, there are a couple body parts you should always get permission to apply your mouth to before exploring, including her feet and her bum. Some girls simply arent into having your mouth in these sensitive areas, so ask her before you go there. On the other hand, some girls would enthusiastically welcome some toe sucking or some tongue action down below. Find out where she stands and use your mouth accordingly.

Threesomes: Make Them Happen

What You Need To Know Some women are flattered when you suggest a threesome, so keep an open mind. Begin by sharing a threesome fantasy and then letting it become a reality organically. Set up ground rules to avoid relationship problems:Sure, sex with your partner is smokin, but how much hotter would it be to add a third person to the mix? At Good In Bed, we know that a threesome, or menage a trois, has crossed the minds of most couples at some point or another, whether as a fantasy or the real thing. And while not everyone is comfortable even suggesting one, a little honesty can go a long way to help you make the fantasy a reality or even just incorporate the fantasy into your own sex life. Heres how to make threesomes happen. Keep an open mind When one partner suggests a threesome, its easy for the other to feel worried about the state of the relationship. Really, a threesome sex fantasy is a compliment. Any time Ive had a partner approach me with the idea, Ive felt flattered and viewed it as a positive sign of their comfort level with me, regardless of whether I actually chose to participate. Make it a fantasy first Your ability to talk about a threesome is a good indicator of the strength of your relationship (and communication is key when it comes to making threesomes happen). In the Good In Bed Guide to 52 Weeks of Amazing Sex, the authors discuss how to get the most juice out of this fantasy, as well as other sexy scenarios. Can you two discuss other sexual topics openly and without embarrassment? If so, this chat is probably going to go a lot more smoothly. Start off by enjoying the concept of a threesome as a sexy secret fantasy between the two of you. Pretend youre going to have one and choose celebrities or random people from a crowd that appeal to you both. Now gauge your partners reaction. Does she show a spark of interest in the real thing? If not, keep it as a fantasy and use sex toys, porn or role-playing to incorporate it into your sex life. If she is interested, move on to the next step. Discuss the details If your partner shows interest in an actual threesome, its time to hash out the details. How do you envision it? How does she? Its no surprise that about 95% of heterosexual guys prefer a woman to be the guest star, and while some female partners agree, others are more interested in adding another man to the mix. Talk about your preferences, including whether you both want to partake, whether one of you wants to watch, or a bit of both. Set some ground rules Setting up some threesome rules are a crucial part of pulling it off. Research shows that women can be awfully protective of their emotional bond with their boyfriend or husband. Its important to realize that if she feels threatened by your guest star, your threesome is going to end pretty badly -- and so might your relationship. Talk about the ground rules before the night begins: Are you OK with her kissing the third party? Is she all right with you penetrating another woman? Discuss all the potential outcomes so you both know what to expect. Dont push your partner into anything shes not ready for. And remember: Make her the star of the show.

4 Tricks To Make Her Orgasm part 2

"Whether youre kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy." Whether youre kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy." Kiss the right side of her spine Touch on the right side of a womans spine makes her melt more so than the left side, perhaps because the left side of the brain controls her right side and it's the logical side that can talk her into anything. Whether youre kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy. Youll cover more mileage, not to mention get better mileage out of your touch, since its significantly more intense than a straight touch. climax trickery Time for you to take your tricks for a test drive. With all that attention, her skin will be flushed, her pupils dilated, parts of her shaking, and those she can steady, shell be pushing into you -- until shes done and cant take anymore, that is. Now thats how to make her orgasm for real and, trust us, you'll be able to tell the difference.

4 Tricks To Make Her Orgasm

What You Need To Know Use the erogenous zones to your advantage - like the back to the right of the spine. Take your time when you're down below. It's scientifically proven that warmer feet lead to more orgasms. Shes arching her back, moaning and groaning, and giving Meg Ryan a run for her money. Youre impressed by your ability to make her squirm like that, but deep down your thoughts race between: "What if shes faking?" and "If not, how do I hit this magic button again?" If youve ever been there, or for that matter would like to find yourself in that enviable position, check out these four tricks to make her orgasm. Put on musky cologne Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual functioning for two reasons: First, since anything musky mimics testosterone, itll kick her libido into high gear. Baby powder can have a similar effect by activating her scent print, which links babies to procreation. Second, because smell, sex and memory centers share close quarters in the brain, the scent of arousal leaves the most lasting impression. The second she gets a whiff of your musky cologne, shell be transported back to the last time she smelled it on your body. Warm up her feet Every guy knows that when a woman hits the sack she loves to wedge her cold feet between his legs to warm up. Warm feet do more to make a woman physically comfortable than just about anything else -- even more so if you want her completely naked, which is not likely to happen if shes cold, even with the lights off. What most of you probably didnt realize was the importance of warm feet in increasing the likelihood of her experiencing an orgasm. According to Dutch scientists from the University of Groningen, the odds are increased by 30%. Maybe leaving the socks on isnt such a bad idea after all. If you want to try something sexier, a foot massage with a warming gel can do wonders, especially if you concentrate on the pads of her toes and the webbing in between, which are linked to her nether zones according to reflexology charts. Moreover, lips, hands, feet, and genitals get the lions share of brain space, where feet and genital centers are neighbors, making them share sexy information. Why else do you think women call shoe shopping retail therapy -- especially when theyre not getting any at home and feeling bummed out? So socks or stilettos, you choose, as long as theyre keeping her tootsies warm.

6 Female Libido Killers part 4

Sedatives: Medications like Xanex, Diazepam and Valium are known to lower ones sex drive and ability to be aroused. Occasionally, this may result in an inability to reach orgasm, which can be a terrifying and stressful experience. Most sedatives do exactly that -- sedate the body and mind. Having high energy levels and normal brain-body function is impaired significantly, leaving women feeling more like a lobotomized zombie than a sex goddess. It is hard to help things like this when the doctor seems to be in charge, and the reasons for being on sedatives are unique. Keeping the body as toxin-free as possible is always a good idea, so exercise, water and doing fun things will help her regain her health and well-being. Other prescription drugs: Antihistamines can effect lubrication and cause drowsiness; antipsychotic, anti-seizure, anti-cancer, and non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs can all effect libido in a negative way. Recreational drugs Ecstasy: This drug is great for making out, and her sex drive is likely to go through the roof when shes on it since her body is in the best mood ever, and everything feels great. The negative effects of ecstasy use are the after-effects of low serotonin -- depression of normal body functions while the body realigns itself chemically and physically. Ecstasy is an aphrodisiac, but regular use is bad news. Marijuana: Smoking pot has a depressant effect on the body, therefore, this drug is a libido killer. It also dries the vagina (and mouth) up, which is not helpful. If you want to have sex, dont get her stoned. Amphetamines (speed, crystal meth): Amphetamines are known to cause sexual dysfunction in both men and women. While speeding, sex is likely to be far from her (and your) mind, but talking a lot, and really fast, will not be. Opiates (seroin, cocaine): Opiates are linked with the inability to orgasm and low sexual desire. Men may find they cannot get an erection, and women can have problems with moisture. Most people who use heroin say that sex is very low on the list of important things to do. Cocaine can be good for confidence, and sometimes increase sensations, but overall it is a slack aphrodisiac. Illnesses and disorders Thyroid: Problems with the thyroid directly affect hormones, which in turn wreaks chaos with a womans sex drive. It is one of the most undiagnosed problems with low sex drive because it is not really talked about as a symptom. Adrenal glands: The adrenal glands are responsible for producing some of the testosterone in women, so when this gland is not performing to its peak, the amount of testosterone (the sex hormone) is lowered. This means shell experiences less desire to have sex at any time. This gland is what keeps a womans sex drive active after menopause (when the ovaries, which are responsible for the rest of the testosterone, cease to function). Hysterectomy: The removal of the uterus (and sometimes the fallopian tubes and ovaries) effects women differently. In studies, half the women experienced an improvement in their sex lives, with 21% seeing a decrease in desire and enjoyment. This shows that it could go either way. Depending on the circumstances of the hysterectomy, there will be many other factors influencing her sexuality and well-being. Because of the low levels of testosterone, she may end up with other problems, like thyroid deficiency, low energy levels and moodiness. long live the libido Defining the problem is the first step toward discovering why were not getting laid as much as we should be. Whether it's overuse of McDonalds or overuse of ecstasy, everything we put inside us effects our bodies and, therefore, our sex drives. If you can find the real problem, you can fix it. A word of caution: Approach things you think would benefit from a change with tact and sensitivity. You dont want to be booted out onto the sidewalk with teeth marks on your neck.

6 Female Libido Killers part 3

Female Libido Killers Testosterone is responsible for much of a woman's sex drive, so the loss of her already low levels is bad news. This can be a trade off, because we all love raw sex. Going off the pill may not be the best idea, so get her to ask her doctor for an alternative type of birth control. Depo-Provera injection: This injection is a high dose of artificial progesterone. This tricks the body into thinking it is already pregnant, but progesterone inhibits the production of estrogen, which is essential for the health of her reproductive system and, therefore, essential to her sex drive. The lack of estrogen can cause a problem called atrophic vaginitis, which can make sex painful and cause serious and uncomfortable problems with the urinary tract, vagina and vulva. This form of birth control has been linked with mental health issues, weight gain and vaginal problems that hinder sex by making it painful and uncomfortable. Aside from those symptoms, it decreases sex drive considerably in most women, which is obviously not good for you. Implanon implants: Similar to Depo-Provera, this implant is a slow release of progesterone that can last in the body for up to three years. The good news: Her sex drive may hit the roof (or the floor), taking you with it. If it works for her, it is a good (and sex-a-plenty) alternative to the pill. The bad news: This matchstick-size implant can wreak havoc with her body, resulting in a very high sex drive, but almost black-widow-like behavior (she'll hunt you down, screw you, then eat you alive). The side effects -- moodiness, obsessive behavior, acne, and depression -- can be very destructive. It also causes swelling of the brain. Every woman experiences different changes in libido, both positive and negative, while using this form of birth control. Prescription drugs Antidepressants: Some antidepressants can increase libido in women, while others, such as Prozac, reduce it significantly. There are some that have had fewer reported sexual side effects, so if one antidepressant doesn't work well, there are other options. Overall, antidepressants help encourage sex because she will be feeling better about life in general and will have more energy, but orgasm can often be delayed or not happen at all. In this case, good communication is essential because a chemistry problem can turn into a psychological problem very quickly. If you have to kiss and play around while she gets better, then so be it; pressure to have sex is also a libido killer. Blood pressure drugs: Most blood pressure drugs kill a woman's sex drive, so other drugs may be prescribed to counter this. The doctor may try a few different types of blood pressure drugs to find one that won't affect her sex drive. The reason for the high blood pressure needs to be addressed so she can get back to full health, and easy ways to help this are encouraging exercise and good diet, and doing fun, stress-free activities.

6 Female Libido Killers part 2

Better your sex life by ditching the burger and fries and avoiding these female libido killers... It can be an extremely stupid thing to suggest to a woman that she exercise more, so by suggesting physical activities you can do together (like going for jogs or rollerblading), you are improving your own sex life (and overall health and happiness) as well as hers. Poor diet Diet plays a major role in painful periods, and in overall happiness and well-being. Her diet can be stopping her from feeling her best, so taking a good look at what goes in will help to determine what her body dishes out. After all, we are what we eat. Again, suggesting she stop eating crap food is going to land you in the dog house, so make these changes to your own eating habits so she doesnt feel she is being picked on. Let her learn by your example. Swap the chips for a salad, the Coke for water, and both your energy levels will rise as a result. More energy for life means more energy for sex. Toxic overload If we dont help our bodies clear out toxins, they will build up and give us zits, odors and low energy levels. Helping our bodies rid the toxins will make us feel better quite easily and quickly. Smoking, pollution, lack of exercise, bad diet, and being overweight all make us feel less stellar than we should, and these factors also kill our sex drives. The best ways to rid our bodies of toxins are to drink plenty of water and antioxidants like green tea, and get exercise. PMT PMT can affect her in the week or days before her period. All women experience premenstrual changes, but some have what is clearly defined as a serious problem. You probably know of women who suffer from PMT: they are the women you refer to as The Bitch or The Psycho. Their behavior is irrational, illogical, emotional, and fraught with tension and anxiety. One minute they may seem perfectly fine, and the next they are a raging maniac, crying, yelling, and being irritable.This may be a bad time for trying to have sex, and saying something like, Have you got your period? will go over like a lead balloon. In saying this, sometimes increased premenstrual aggression means sex is especially vigorous and primal. Women are extra sensitive during this time because of high estrogen levels. The best way to deal with this is to avoid arguing back, and if you want to help fix the problem, encourage her to do some exercise and other stress-relieving activities (and yes, sex is one of these, but do try others). Birth control Oral contraceptive pill: The OCP is a small pill that controls the bodys hormones artificially to prevent pregnancy. The good news: The freedom gained from the pill is an aphrodisiac; knowing she wont get pregnant is liberating, and definitely encouraging for both of you. The bad news: The pill can be dangerous for a womans libido. Her hormones are leveled completely (and artificially), which rules out the sexual peak at ovulation (most birth control pills force the body to skip ovulation) and just before her period. It effects the body by increasing the levels of something called SHBG (sex hormone-binding globulin), which attaches itself to testosterone in her bloodstream, rendering it useless.

Women's sexual response

Do all women have the same sexual feelings? No they don't. In actual fact, women vary enormously in their sexual drive. Some don't feel very interested in sex at all whereas others are passionate and wild about it. But an extraordinary change has taken place in the last 50 years or so. Back in the mid-20th century, it was generally felt by doctors that most women fell into the 'not very interested' group - and that only a few were enthusiastically sexy. By the 21st century, all that had changed. Today, it is widely assumed by the media - and by many of the public - that most women are easily aroused by sexual stimuli and that only a minority have little interest in sex. In fact, that isn't really true. Our research indicates that although most modern females are much more 'open' about sex, and are keen to enjoy it; it takes them time to learn how to do this. Indeed, a small study which we completed in 2005 indicated that a considerable proportion of young women just starting at university have thus far developed very little interest in sex (or knowledge about it), and have not even learned to reach orgasm yet. However, many of them do become very much more sexually charged as the years progress. Learning how to reach orgasm We have found that younger females frequently have no real knowledge of the process of sexual arousal. In particular, women often need quite a lot of help to learn how to reach orgasm. Unlike males most of whom can 'come' easily from the moment they reach puberty females will often spend a couple of years experimenting with their sexual feelings before they eventually learn how to come regularly and reliably. But once women have learned to cast off their inhibitions and enjoy sex, they tend to respond to sexual stimuli in very much the same way. What are women's sexual reactions? A woman's first response to sexual stimulation is usually a nice, warm feeling all over her body as she begins to let herself go. At the same time her pulse rate starts to go up, and the pupils of her eyes get bigger. Incidentally, this widening of the pupils makes her more attractive sexually. In the olden days, drugs like belladonna ('beautiful woman') were used to produce this effect. What happens to her sex organs as she gets aroused? Laboratory studies carried out in Holland in 2004 show that as s soon as a woman starts thinking with interest about sex, her vagina begins to moisten. (This is the female equivalent of erection in men.) The reason for this moistening is to lubricate her vagina, in preparation for possible sexual activity. At the same time, various other things happen: her clitoris the most erotically sensitive part of her body swells up. her labia (the lips of the opening of her vagina) also swell up. The effect of this is to open up her vaginal opening slightly, in preparation for intercourse. inside her, her vagina opens up making room for the possible entry of a penis. What happens next? As she gets more and more aroused, her breasts will swell a little and her nipples will become more prominent. Her breathing gets faster and she starts to gasp. Her eyes tend to become glazed and she is likely to lick her lips - thus making them even more attractive to her partner. If she is fair-skinned, a faint pink 'rash' will develop at the base of her neck and over her breasts. And finally? And finally, she climaxes. What generally happens here is that she experiences a series of waves of ever-increasing pleasure, till eventually the last one is so mind-blowing that she nearly passes out. At that moment, nearly all women cry out sometimes very loudly! The muscles of their faces and bodies contract violently (but very enjoyably) and then after a while everything relaxes. So that's the end? No, not really. These days, most women can if they want to - go on to have further climaxes. But this will only happen if: they are happy and relaxed they are being skilfully stimulated they have learned how to have multiple orgasms. This is of course, a dramatic difference between the sexual response of females and males. Nearly all men have no chance whatsoever of enjoying multiple climaxes!

Exploring Female Sexual Fantasies

Freud once stated that only unsatisfied people have sexual fantasies. Well, the bearded shrink was wrong; studies of human sexual behavior have proven exactly the opposite. Sexual fantasies have been shown to be associated with high libido as defined by high sex drive and orgasm frequency. This was especially true for women: those who had more sexual fantasies also had higher sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. Pleasure fuels a desire for more pleasure. And while there exists a common false belief that men daydream about sex every seven seconds or so during their waking hours, women also frequently fantasize, especially after they have become aroused. Indeed, women who have sexual fantasies during arousal are much more likely to experience orgasms than women who do not. So don't feel guilty if you find yourself fantasizing about Angelina Jolie while making love to your girlfriend or wife. While you are humping away at your imaginary Angelina, she is probably dreaming about being ravished by Brad Pitt on some deserted island in a modern-day remake of From Here to Eternity. In fact, research has shown that women are just as likely as men to have sexual fantasies during intercourse; and just like men, women often fantasize about having sex with other partners.what does that say about her? Just because she is fantasizing about someone else does not mean she is unhappy with her man. For reasons similar to those that cause men to imagine themselves with other partners, the "spice" of the fantasy simply adds to her arousal and provides that extra "oomph" to bring her over the top. While she might be plenty happy with her man's performance, dreaming that it is Brad Pitt who is giving her that pleasure just enhances its orgasmic potency.what do women fantasize about? One person at a time Nevertheless, female fantasies are different from male ones in several major ways. Men tend to fantasize about a greater number of sexual partners, and many men like to "swap" their imagined partners, while women tend to "stay" with one specific person during their fantasy. Vivid fantasies, free of precise details Men tend to focus on activities and body organs during their fantasies, which led researchers to describe male fantasies as consisting of "sex acts and parts." Even though women's fantasies are just as vivid, they are frequently unable to provide the same descriptive details about the objects of their fantasy. Women's fantasies are also less explicit -- women are far less likely than men to visualize their imagined lover's genitals than men are. Instead, women appear to be more involved with their own emotional responses than with the characteristics of their imaginary partners. Their fantasies frequently include descriptions of their imagined selves, such as: "I look so sexy wearing my favorite blue lingerie that he can't take his eyes off me." Women are also more likely to describe feelings that their fantasies evoke: "I felt happy and free."

Sexual Problems in Men part 3

What Tests Are Used to Evaluate Sexual Problems? Several tests can be used to evaluate the causes and extent of male sexual problems. They include: Blood tests -- These tests are done to evaluate hormone levels. Vascular assessment -- This involves an evaluation of the blood flow to the penis. A blockage in a blood vessel supplying blood to the penis may be contributing to erectile dysfunction. Sensory testing -- Particularly useful in evaluating the effects of diabetic neuropathy (nerve damage), sensory testing measures the strength of nerve impulses in a particular area of the body. Nocturnal penile tumescence and rigidity testing -- This test is used to monitor erections that occur naturally during sleep. This test can help determine if a man's erectile problems are due to physical or psychological causes. How Is Male Sexual Dysfunction Treated? Many cases of male sexual dysfunction can be corrected by treating the underlying physical or psychological problems. Treatment strategies may include the following: Medical treatment -- This involves treatment of any physical problem that may be contributing to a man's sexual dysfunction. Medications -- Medications, such as Cialis, Viagra or Levitra, may help improve sexual function in men by increasing blood flow to the penis. Hormones -- Men with low levels of testosterone may benefit from hormone supplementation (testosterone replacement therapy). Psychological therapy -- Therapy with a trained counselor can help a person address feelings of anxiety, fear, or guilt that may have an impact on sexual function. Mechanical aids -- Aids such as vacuum devices and penile implants may help men with erectile dysfunction. Education and communication -- Education about sex and sexual behaviors and responses may help a man overcome his anxieties about sexual performance. Open dialogue with your partner about your needs and concerns also helps to overcome many barriers to a healthy sex life. Can Sexual Problems Be Cured? The success of treatment for sexual problems depends on the underlying cause. The outlook is good for dysfunction that is related to a treatable or reversible physical condition. Mild dysfunction that is related to stress, fear, or anxiety often can be successfully treated with counseling, education, and improved communication between partners. Can Sexual Problems be Prevented? While sexual problems cannot be prevented, dealing with the underlying causes of the dysfunction can help you better understand and cope with the problem when it occurs. There are some things you can do to help maintain good sexual function: Follow your doctor's treatment plan for any health conditions. Limit your alcohol intake. Quit smoking. Deal with any emotional or psychological issues such as stress, depression, and anxiety. Get treatment as needed. Increase communication with your partner. When Should I Call My Doctor About a Sexual Problem? Many men experience a sexual problem from time to time. However, when the problems are persistent, they can cause distress for the man and his partner, and have a negative impact on their relationship. If you consistently experience sexual function problems, see your doctor for evaluation and treatment.

Sexual Problems in Men part 2

What is Erectile Dysfunction? Also known as impotence or ED, erectile dysfunction is defined as the inability to attain and/or maintain an erection suitable for intercourse. Causes of erectile dysfunction include diseases affecting blood flow, such as atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries); nerve disorders; psychological factors, such as stress, depression, and performance anxiety (nervousness over his ability to sexually perform); and injury to the penis. Chronic illness, certain medications, and a condition called Peyronie's disease (scar tissue in the penis) can also cause erectile dysfunction. What is Inhibited Sexual Desire? Inhibited desire, or loss of libido, refers to a decrease in desire for, or interest in sexual activity. Reduced libido can result from physical or psychological factors. It has been associated with low levels of the hormone testosterone. It also may be caused by psychological problems, such as anxiety and depression; medical illnesses, such as diabetes and high blood pressure; certain medications, including some antidepressants; and relationship difficulties. How Are Male Sexual Problems Diagnosed? To diagnose a man's sexual problem, the doctor likely will begin with a thorough history of symptoms. He or she may order other tests to rule out any medical problems that may be contributing to the dysfunction. The doctor may refer you to other doctors, including a urologist (a doctor specializing in the urinary tract and male reproductive system), an endocrinologist (a doctor specializing in hormonal issues), a neurologist (a doctor specializing in disorders of the nervous system), sex therapists, and other counselors.

Sexual Problems in Men

Introduction A sexual problem, or sexual dysfunction, refers to a problem during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents the individual or couple from experiencing satisfaction from the sexual activity. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. While research suggests that sexual dysfunction is common (43% of women and 31% of men report some degree of difficulty), it is a topic that many people are hesitant to discuss. Fortunately, most cases of sexual dysfunction are treatable, so it is important to share your concerns with your partner and doctor. What Causes Sexual Problems? Sexual dysfunction can be a result of a physical or psychological problem. Physical causes: Many physical and/or medical conditions can cause problems with sexual function. These conditions include diabetes, heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease, neurological disorders, hormonal imbalances, chronic diseases such as kidney or liver failure, and alcoholism and drug abuse. In addition, the side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressant drugs, can affect sexual desire and function. Psychological causes: These include work-related stress and anxiety, concern about sexual performance, marital or relationship problems, depression, feelings of guilt, and the effects of a past sexual trauma. Who is Affected by Sexual Problems? Both men and women are affected by sexual problems. They can occur in adults of all ages. Among those commonly affected are seniors, which may be related to a decline in health associated with aging. How do Sexual Problems Affect Men? The most common sexual problems in men are ejaculation disorders, erectile dysfunction, and inhibited sexual desire. What Are Ejaculation Disorders? There are different types of ejaculation disorders, including: Premature ejaculation -- This refers to ejaculation that occurs before or soon after penetration. Inhibited or retarded ejaculation -- This is when ejaculation is slow to occur. Retrograde ejaculation -- This occurs when, at orgasm, the ejaculate is forced back into the bladder rather than through the urethra and out the end of the penis. In some cases, premature and inhibited ejaculation are caused by a lack of attraction for a partner, past traumatic events, and psychological factors, including a strict religious background that causes the person to view sex as sinful. Premature ejaculation, the most common form of sexual dysfunction in men, often is due to nervousness over how well he will perform during sex. Certain drugs, including some antidepressants, may affect ejaculation, as can nerve damage to the spinal cord or back. Retrograde ejaculation is common in males with diabetes who suffer from diabetic neuropathy (nerve damage). This is due to problems with the nerves in the bladder and the bladder neck that allow the ejaculate to flow backward and into the bladder. In other men, retrograde ejaculation occurs after operations on the bladder neck or prostate, or after certain abdominal operations. In addition, certain medications, particularly those used to treat mood disorders, may cause problems with ejaculation. This generally does not require treatment unless it impairs fertility.

Can you have multiple orgasms?

Being Multi-orgasmic, is it a fallacy, here are some of the details. Definition of multiple orgasms: experiencing orgasms within half a minute to a minute apart, which is quite close together. Each orgasm in a multiple session doesn't have to be earth shattering, it can be waves of pleasure, or even tension releases, we all experience orgasms differently and at different intensities, so multiple orgasms also vary with each individual. Women Fact: Women are more multi-orgasmic than men because they don't have to go through as long a refractory period as men. And when they do orgasm they remain on a plateau stage, which means they stay aroused even after an orgasm. Once a woman experiences an orgasm, she is likely to be able to achieve another if she keeps stimulating her genitals after, though your clitoris may be too sensitive, use other indirect stimulation on your vagina, labia, anus or breasts/nipples. During intercourse the best position to use is female dominant as she has full control over how quickly and deeply she is penetrated and how much friction she feels against her clitoris. Most women that experience multiple orgasms are usually in their late 20's and early 30's, usually as they become more aware of what their bodies like but that doesn't mean it can be experienced if you are outside this age range. There are many women in their 40s that achieve multiple orgasms. How to be multi-orgasmic? Masturbation is the absolute best way for anyone, to learn about their bodies and what they like sexually. So, when you masturbate, stimulate yourself to the verge of orgasm, then pause, hold back, wait and continue in a slower more relaxed pace. Repeat the whole process, until you absolutely can't hold off any longer, then allow yourself to orgasm. As you start to calm down then stimulate your vagina, and the area around the clitoris until you feel the waves building up, then move more directly to your clitoris. Use your fingers or a small vibrator such as the "fingertron" for more tips about masturbation and vibrators see the two articles on these subjects. With your partner during intercourse? The most advantageous position for a woman to experience multiple orgasms is the Woman-On-Top position. This allows her to initiate and direct most of the movements as far as how quickly and deeply she's penetrated and she can also control the amount of stimulation to her clitoris. What about Men? Generally, men are not as multi-orgasmic as women because when men ejaculate they go through an unresponsive stage this can last for only minutes but may last for hours, meaning that unlike women, who can continue genital stimulation right after orgasm, men can not. Following ejaculation, men have to start from the beginning, getting aroused to totally erect all over again. The key to men being multi-orgasmic is to learn to hold off on ejaculation. We must explore male orgasm to understand this. Generally, men have an orgasm and ejaculate at the simultaneously, leading themselves to believe that the two go hand in hand, but this is not necessarily so. The act of ejaculating and experiencing and orgasm are two different things for men. Many men have ejaculated without experiencing orgasm and vice versa, climaxing without ejaculating. And that's the key, because by not ejaculating you'll remain in a high stage of excitement. Men need that rest period after ejaculating. Many of the men that experience orgasm without ejaculating experience a very short unresponsive rest period. Can a man learn to be multi-orgasmic? Developing strong PC muscles can help you control when you ejaculate. You can do this by trying to use your internal muscles to move and lift your penis, this will help you control yourself, and it looks rather sexy. Another method you can use is to stimulate yourself to the verge of an orgasm, once you reach that point, use your index finger and thumb to pinch down on your testicles. Take a deep breath and go again, this will teach control. During intercourse Get your partner can stimulate you to the verge of orgasm, or show your lover, and they can pinch your testicles, take a deep breathe and start again, until your ready to orgasm. Either that or when you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, stop all stimulation to yourself and concentrate on your partner, then when you've leveled out, start up again, its all about control. It's a wonderful experience if you can learn to experience multiple orgasms. Although, it should not be the prime goal all of your sexual encounters, remember also that if you can't it's not a problem, because only 60% of women can experience multiple orgasms. The most important thing is that you and your partner enjoy each other while you're together, sharing lots of foreplay before engaging in intercourse. Make that the very last thing you do and even once youve finished, bask in the afterglow with your partner.

Sex On The Beach � Fantasy Fulfilled

The only persistent fantasy Ive ever had, though, the only one thats hung in there with me through the years, is the Sex on the Beach fantasy. It has turned out to be more difficult to bring this one to life than Id expected. As it happens, private beachfront time when the sun is shining and the temperature is just right for some naked sexy time is a hot commodity. Just ask the hordes of vacationers crowding our shores every sunny day between Memorial Day and Labor Day each year, or rather, dont, because they dont want to hear it, which rather highlights the problem. Where theres a will, theres a way, however, and where theres a will and a way and some plane tickets and possibly even a passport or two and a boat and some nautical charts and a cheerful husband, there can be the realization of a happy girls dream. Coleridge wrote how a reader might have to engage in a willing suspension of disbelief in order to appreciate the fantastic worlds that literature could open up. Sex on the beach is sort of like that. Sex is, as Im sure youve noticed by now, and holy hell if not please get in touch because you are doing something wrong wrong wrong, a slippery business. On the beach, the slippery soon becomes the sandy. And sand + friction on certain body parts is just not OK, unless maybe youve got some kind of sandpaper fetish, in which case, who am I to judge. If youre really going at it, and if youve gone so far as to bust out passports and travel by plane and boat to get here, you most certainly are not sort of lethargically and methodically knocking one out for the hell of it, sand is going to make its way up into the unmapped depths of your delicate bits. My advice to you on this matter is to pretend youre re-enacting that scene in From Here to Eternity and roll around in the surf a bit from time to time to rinse the grit away. We tried to avoid the potential sand in the hoo-ha problem by starting out on a towel under a beach umbrella, but that was just plain silly, because the towel was a crumpled up nuisance almost instantly, plus it sort of defeated the whole out there in the open on the beach point of it all. And anyway, the splashing around proved to be more fun and led to the fulfillment of a fantasy my husband didnt even know he had until about thirty seconds before it was fulfilled. On that subject let me just say this: if youre on your knees and there are any hints of waves at all, try to make sure that you are facing away from the incoming tide in order to avoid a mouthful of seawater. Youre welcome. My husband spent a fair amount of time with his back to the noonday sun. For this I am profoundly grateful. For his trouble he was rewarded with not only my gratitude, but also a preposterous sunburn on his previously lily white ass. In my haste to strip him down to nothing as soon as wed hit this private beach, the judicious application of sunscreen fell by the wayside. Damn it, there was beach sex to be had! So, yeah. His ass peeled a few days later. Whatever. I had an insane orgasm in the middle of a Caribbean beach in broad daylight with nobody around but seagulls and maybe a stray hermit crab. Small price to pay. Ultimately, whatever the specifics of what youre into and who does what to whom and where your leg is and where his face is, feeling so free to luxuriate in the sun and on the beach and in the water not only giving and receiving pleasure but doing so knowing that it was something Id thought about for so long was the best part. And now I get to check that one off the list and move on to the next one! Anybody have a helicopter I can borrow for a few days? So tell me, do you have an fantasies that you plan on fulfilling or will you just keep them within the confines of your mind?

make women squirt

Some women don't know how to orgasm, while others need little more than a whisper in order to reach orgasmic heights. And then there are the others -- those women who have the capability to squirt their juices all over the bed, the floor, or even you. Although we'd like to believe that every woman is capable of reaching such heights of sexual ecstasy, unfortunately, there are many women out there who disagree. And if they're not willing to open their minds to the idea of ejaculating, then that's their prerogative. Nevertheless, if you are with a woman who is very sexually in tune with herself, and would be willing to let you manipulate her vagina until she ejaculated all over you, then today's tip on female ejaculation is going to leave you soaking wet. Before you make her ejaculate A woman's ejaculate is expelled from the urethra, the same place where urine comes out from. And although studies have found that the clear liquid is not urine at all (the juice is released from the Skene's glands, or urethral sponge), if your girl doesn't have complete control over her PC (pubococcygeus) muscle, there is a chance that she may actually pee all over you. If this does end up happening, be cool about it. Think about it; it's normal for her to feel as though she's about to urinate when she's about to ejaculate. If she tries to hold it in, she won't ejaculate; she has to let go. If she does end up urinating, and you trip out on her, she'll never try this again. Accept the golden shower, and don't freak out. Let her go with it; eventually she'll learn the difference between the sensations. And although you can manipulate her vagina all you like, if your woman is inhibited, then chances are she won't be able to reach this pinnacle of sexual satisfaction. She may even get annoyed by the feeling, so make sure she wants it. OK, so she wants it. If you're about ready to start seeking the liquids, read on to find out what you have to do. Make her ejaculate with your fingers While there are some women who can ejaculate through clitoral stimulation, or through other sex play (penile penetration or even breast-sucking), the most effective way to achieve this outcome is through G-spot manipulation with your hands.Obviously, we're not implying that you should head directly for the G-spot when you're trying to make her ejaculate. Start out with some foreplay and lick her clitoris first -- get her "pumped," so to speak. Once she begins to get excited, insert two fingers inside her vagina, with your palm facing up. But don't stop licking her clitoris (unless, of course, you can't do two things at a time).About an inch or two inside the vagina, you will likely hit a round ball of skin -- that's the G-spot. Keep stroking the area with pressure; it may start to become more solid; just keep doing what you're doing. Tip: Use your other hand to gently press down on the area between her navel and her mons pubis (her pubic mound) for increased stimulation. If she tells you that she feels like she's about to urinate, assure her that it's near impossible for her to pee and that she should just let go. Although her instincts may be to hold back, reassure her with encouraging words like, "Oh yeah, I can't wait for you to drench my hands." As she begins to reach orgasm and starts to ejaculate, prepare yourself to either be greeted by a light gushing liquid or an actual drenching spray. Both are normal and the amount of liquid can reach anywhere from a teaspoon to a cup. Have some towels handy. After she gushes like crazy, chances are she'll want a break because her vagina might become extremely sensitive (think of the head of your penis after you ejaculate). So, don't go for a second round right away unless you get the distinct impression that she's ready for more.Keep getting the goods Achieving the almighty squirt may not be as simple as described above; it may take some experimentation, persuasion and different positions. As well, you may want to try stimulating other parts of her body while you head inside. For example, have her lie down on the bed, face up, and kneel next to her (your body should be facing her belly button). While your fingers are stimulating her G-spot, use your other hand and your mouth to manipulate her nipples.You could also opt to rotate between penile penetration and finger penetration in the doggy-style position. And, of course, there are women who can ejaculate through sex alone, so place her on a surface where her vagina easily meets your penis and penetrate her, making sure only your penis connects your bodies. And if all else fails, you can always call on a vibrator to help your woman get in touch with her juicier side. keep on simulating Every woman has the ability to reach incredible heights of orgasm. It's up to you to convince her to let go of her inhibitions and make her ejaculate all over you.

Kitchen Play

I stood in the kitchen watching him finish the dishes, as I dried my hands. I decided I wanted to be playful, so I twisted the towel up and snapped his hot, sexy ass. He jumped, and turned and looked at me with a rather awkward smile on his face. So you want to play like that? he said, as he took his hands out of the dish water and flicked water at me. Then he started walking towards me. What ya going to do now missy? he said with a big cheesy grin on his sexy face. Bring it buddy! I said as I started backing up from him. He was looking straight into my soul with those big blue eyes. God they made my heart skip a beat every time he looked at me like that. And he knew it thats why he teased me with them. I could feel myself becoming wet with anticipation. I was hoping that he was in the mood. He leaned into me, kind of testing the waters. But I leaned in towards him too. I placed my arms around his neck as his lips met mine, and we kissed passionately. Our bodies moving closer together as his hands stroked up and down my back. We continued to kiss, than he lightly bit my bottom lip. He moved his hands down to my ass and pulled me tightly into him. He acted like I was going to run from him. But I loved him and wanted to show him that every day. He started to kiss my neck and I quivered in pleasure. Then he stopped and pushed me back. I thought that was it, what had I done wrong? He reached for my hand and led me to the kitchen table. At the side of the table we now stood. Staring into one others eyes, both smiling and wanting what was about to happen. Jared placed his hands around my neck and pulled me into him. We kissed again, very lightly, very passionately. I placed my hands on his sides moving them slowly up his tee shirt until I could feel his shoulder blades, then moving them back down. I loved the feel of his soft flesh underneath my fingertips. He quickly pulled his shirt off then went for mine. We resumed our kissing, and I could tell his excitement was building as I could feel his fully erected cock, trying to make its way out of his jeans. We pulled each other closer so that our flesh met, his hand moved to my back to unclasp my bra. He pulled it off to reveal my small perky breasts. He looked at them for a second, and then moved his head down to lick and kiss my right breast. He circled my nipple with his cold wet tongue and it grew hard. Then he moved slowly to my left breast giving it the same attention. I loved it but couldnt take the pleasure so I pulled his head up and kissed him passionately. We were probing each others mouths with our tongues, and he once again bit my lower lip. I pulled at the front of his jean until I got the button undone. Then I thrust my hand down until I find his balls and squeeze. He gasped as I moved my hand upward and took hold of his dick at the base. I stroked it slowly, as he gasped again in pleasure, but stopped me. He pulled the remainder of his clothing off, and started kissing me as he guided my hand back to his manhood. My breathing was getting heavier as I continued to stroke his long hard cock. How I wanted to feel him thrusting inside of me. I licked my lips as I could almost taste his sweet, salty cum on my tongue. I felt him unbutton my jeans and slip his hand down to my very wet pussy. His finger found its way easily between my lips. The smile on his face showed how excited he was to be playing down there. He moved his finger very lightly up and down my lips from the entrance of my vagina to my clit. Up and down, down and up, with a little rub to my clit, over and over again. He could tell I loved it, and I knew he was too. We were now stroking each other in a rhythm getting a little faster with each stroke. He pulled my hand off his cock and looked at me as he moved my hands to my sides. He lowered himself down, kissing my neck, breast, and tummy and then descended down to my waist line. He tugged at my jeans as he kissed and licked around the top in a teasing motion. He slowly pulled the remainder of my clothing off, than gave me a little push to sit on the table. He continued his kissing and nibbling around the top of my thighs. He laid me back and opened my legs, as he probed and licked gently up and down my wet pussy, with an occasional light flicker to my clit. My breathing got noticeably louder as he moved up and down with his tongue, catching my clit more and more with each stroke. I pulled on his hair as he parted my pussy lips with his finger. He was now toying around the entrance to my vagina with his fingers. He pressed two fingers into my vagina as he sped up the licking to my clit. I could feel my orgasm coming on as I arched my back, and my legs began to tremble. I dug my fingernails into his scalp as I squirted my juices on his tongue. Thank you, that was amazing! I said as I pulled him up and kissed him. I wanted more though, so I pulled his dick towards my very wet pussy. He pushed just the head of his hard cock into me, moving in slowly. Teasing me, then he slammed the rest of his manhood into me. He thrusts a little faster with each stroke. He pushed my legs back towards my head so that my ass was raised slightly off the table. He continued his thrusts faster, harder, and deeper. I felt my vagina tighten around his dick and my juices began to flow. He continued to penetrate me harder and harder. He started to jerk, so I knew he was close too. I pushed him off of me and slammed him into the wall next to us. I dropped to my knees, my tongue finds the bottom of his balls and ever so slowly I lick up his shaft. As I near the top I began to trace the tip of his shaft, around and around my tongue wetting a ring just under the tip. Then in one quick movement I consume Jared's shaft all the way down to the base and ever so slowly release it, all the while letting my tongue flick along the bottom on its way out. He allows me to do that two more times before he begin to face fuck me, thrusting in and out of me. Then all of Jared's muscles in his body seize as his load bursts into my mouth and down my throat as I hungrily lap up the rest. Now that was a great desert. I said as he pulled me up and began to kiss me passionately

Mystical world of sexual fantasy.

Every woman on earth has fantasized about some explicit sexual fantasy that she may or may not have been too ashamed to talk about. Whether it's your girlfriend or your wife, this top ten list is sure to touch on a forbidden fantasy of her own. Although most women prefer to leave their fantasies at that, others have a list that they are slowly but surely accomplishing. So the next time your woman seems to be wandering off in thought, who knows, she may be cruising around in the mystical world of sexual fantasy. So do you think you can guess what some of them are? This list took a lot of time to comprise (and a few bottles of red wine as well), and the women's names have been changed to protect their privacy. So the next time you're engaging in pillow talk with your lady of the night, her fantasy may be more common than you might think. drum roll please.. Keep in mind that fantasies are a normal and healthy part of our sexuality. They are either taken from past experiences or may even be entirely imaginary. Sometimes these fantasies are taboo, or socially unacceptable, therefore they are only available through fantasy. But as you'll figure out today, the modern woman marvels at sex and sexuality. 10. Strangers in the night Many women relish the idea of meeting up with a mystery man and going to some no-name motel with him for a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel like the only people they can truly let loose with are strangers simply because they won't be judged. And who cares anyway? They'll probably never see the beautiful stranger again. Francine divulged her perspective, "The idea of sharing a passionate night with a stranger and behaving like a sexual predator doesn't just sound inviting; it sounds delicious. And leaving after we're done without even knowing each other's names is the best part." 9. The more the merrier Group sex was a popular one among the ladies. "The freedom of being nude in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate your body simultaneously is incredibly erotic." Now don't mistakenly assume that all women want to engage in group intercourse, and gather up all your buddies for your next date (unless, of course, she asks you to). 8. Who's your daddy? If there's one thing that women are dying to do, it's dominate a man like never before. The creative ideas that flowed from this topic were quite interesting, to say the least. They included: * spanking him * ordering him to perform certain sexual acts * making him beg for what he wants * having him suck on their stiletto heels or some other phallic object 7. Lay me out on display In today's world of confident women, I was not surprised to learn that many of them fantasize about having an audience whilst engaging in sexual acts with a partner. I guess the idea of knowing that others are getting excited by their "performance" provides them with a feeling of empowerment. "Imagining that people are watching me while I'm taking my partner's manhood into my mouth gives me a feeling of satisfaction because it makes me feel sexier." Perhaps these women feel as though they're participating in an erotic movie... speaking abstractly, of course. 6. Sexually ravaged Although most women agreed that they fantasize about having a master, their role in the scenario differed. Whereas some women said that they would surrender to their master's demands, others opposed the idea and said that they would resist and disobey his commands. Vicky said, "Having him instruct me on how to lick and suck his member or at what pace to ride him will make me orgasm faster than I can say Yes, Master." On the other hand, Denise interrupted saying, "It depends. In some fantasies I obey, yet in others I fight him and refuse to do anything he says until he finally ties me to the bed and calms me with his rhythmic penetration." Whew, is it hot in here, or is it just me???

Bisexual Fantasies

Sometimes when you imagine a threesome with someone of the same sex, its a prelude to fantasizing about a more intimate, same-sex twosome. Or maybe the third opposite sex lover is just there for show, to guide or even force the two same-gender lovers to play with each other. Or maybe your erotic theater of the mind will just combine the male and female into one and imagine sex with a pre-op transsexual or shemale. This doesnt necessarily mean youre truly gay, though it could. It most often means youre truly bisexual, which I believe most of us are, and that your fantasy life is making up for what you repress in your real life. Just because you fantasize about having sex with someone of your gender doesnt mean you ought to do it. Same sex fantasies can signify a lot of different things for people who lead mostly straight real lives--from seeking personal validation to breaking societal taboos. Its funny; it used to be much more taboo for women to admit to any kind of fantasies, except the kind revolving around love and bodice-rippers, a.k.a. romance novels. But now that more women are creating porn and erotica, making it more romantic--that is, story and character-driven--younger women are unabashedly eating it up. Modern ladies also seem to have an easier time accepting their bi-curious fantasies than most men do. There are various sociopolitical, cultural, psychological and physical reasons for this. Women know that most men are turned on by two women together, whereas its still a rare, very open-minded woman who enjoys two men together. Our society is more homophobic than lesbian-phobic. Then there are the real-life, physical risks which tend to be greater between men, since penetration is more often involved, than between women. When fantasizing about sex with another female, most women imagine the other womans whole body: her breasts, buns, hair, lips (both pairs), clitoris, soft skin, seductive eyes, etc. When men fantasize about other men, they tend to focus on one part: the penis. Usually, they envision a big one. So Freud was wrong about penis envy. Women dont have it; men do. At least, a lot of men do. Certainly, Freud himself did. Even, perhaps especially, the outwardly homophobic male has gay fantasies. Why do you think a guy like that is so scared of gays converting straight men? Because in his fantasies, thats exactly what happens: a hugely endowed male dominates him, forcing him to have sexusually giving oral or taking anal--and he likes it, at least in fantasy (again, this doesnt necessarily mean hes truly gay). Masters & Johnson reported that heterosexuals often fantasize about homosexual encounters and vice versa, more often reflecting curiosity and other impulses than the desire to change the gender of one's real-life lovers. Norman Mailer went so far as to say that There is probably no sensitive heterosexual alive who is not preoccupied with his latent homosexuality. I would add at some point in his life, since such desires come and go. Our society tends to make things black or white, good or bad, male or female, heterosexual or homosexual. But the human sexual imagination is most definitely bisexual, even what you might call omnisexual. When Edna St. Vincent Millay went to a doctor for her headaches, he suggested they might stem from an occasional erotic impulse toward a person of [her] own sex. Oh, you mean Im homosexual? Millay responded, Of course, I am, and heterosexual too, but whats that got to do with my headache? Maybe thats what the Pulitzer-prize-winning poet and Vassar girl meant when she wrote my candle burns at both ends. Men are not from Mars, and women are not from Venus. Were all from the same beautiful, wild, sexual planet Earth, and were far more alike than we are different. Dr. Alfred Kinsey was among the first to show that were all on a bisexual continuum with absolute heterosexuals on one end and absolute homosexuals on the other end. Very few of us fall at one extreme or the other. Most of us are bisexual to some degree. That doesnt mean we like both sexes equally at all times. It just means most of us can potentially, under the right circumstances (boarding school, prison, a desert island, etc.), with the right person (the Perfect Lover), be aroused by either gender. Certainly, we can, and often do, enjoy being bi in fantasy.

sexual fantasies

One of the attractions of fantasy lovers -- even when your fantasy lover is actually your current partner, as often happens -- is that they're right beside you, and they know just what to do to make you feel good. Another benefit is that you can enjoy fantasy sex with someone other than your partner without repercussions, because it occurs solely in your mind. Fantasy gives you an outlet for all of the wild, lustful things that you've always wanted to do. You might be really turned on, for example, by the thought of doing it with your spouse in a convertible in the mall parking lot on a sunny Sunday afternoon. Chances are you're not going to try this one out for real, but you can go full speed ahead in your fantasies.

Sexual Problems

The amazing thing about sexual problems is nobody wants to talk about them. So everyone who has one thinks they're the only one. You Are Not Alone Millions of Americans experience common sexual problems, such as erectile dysfunction or dryness of the vagina. Many of these problems, while embarrassing to talk about with your doctor, respond well to certain medications. With the surge in Viagra sales, it is no wonder this is one of the most common difficulties experienced in life. Because it is an embarrassing subject, many people feel alone in their problems, even more alone than people who experience other, similar types of problems. You Are Not to Blame Sexual problems are often the result of simple learned behaviors and associations we make over years of conditioning. Other people's sexual dysfunction is related to a specific, diagnosable medical cause. Whatever the cause, you are not to blame. Sexual dysfunction is usually not caused by parental upbringing or by some conscious desire to have difficulties in the sexual arena. And if it is a problem you've been grappling with for years, it is not likely to just go away or cure itself overnight. What Do I Do Now? This information is here to act as a comprehensive guide to help you better understand sexual problems and find out more information about it on your own. I encourage you to learn more about your sexual dysfunction and some of the treatment options available to you, ranging from medication to behavior-oriented or couples psychotherapy. Criteria below is summarized from: American Psychiatric Association. (1994). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders, fourth edition. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Association. * Exhibitionism * Female and Male Orgasmic Disorders * Female Sexual Arousal Disorder * Fetishism * Frotteurism * Gender Identity Disorder * Sexual Masochism and Sadism * Male Erectile Disorder * Premature Ejaculation * Dyspareunia * Transvestic Fetishism * Vaginismus * Voyeurism Female Orgasmic Disorder: Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase. Women exhibit wide variability in the type or intensity of stimulation that triggers orgasm. The diagnosis of Female Orgasmic Disorder should be based on the clinician's judgment that the woman's orgasmic capacity is less than would be reasonable for her age, sexual experience, and the adequacy of sexual stimulation she receives. The disturbance causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty. The orgasmic dysfunction is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (except another sexual dysfunction) and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition. Male Orgasmic Disorder: Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of, orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase during sexual activity that the clinician, taking into account the person's age, judges to be adequate in focus, intensity, and duration. The disturbance causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty. The orgasmic dysfunction is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (except another sexual dysfunction) and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition. Fetishism: In psychology, the term applies to sexual urges and fantasies that persistently involve the use of nonliving objects by themselves or, at times, the use of such objects with a sexual partner. Common fetishes include feet, shoes, and articles of intimate female apparel. Symptoms: Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving the use of nonliving objects (e.g., female undergarments). The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. The fetish objects are not limited to articles of female clothing used in cross-dressing (as in Transvestic Fetishism) or devices designed for the purpose of tactile genital stimulation (e.g., a vibrator).

All This Sex Talk - You Must Want It, Right?

Do you like sex? I certainly do. I love how close sex can bring me to someone I care about, and I love how it can deepen my understanding and appreciation of that person. I love how much healthy pleasure it brings into my life. I love how sex can bring me to delightful altered states of consciousness, and I love the feelings of acceptance and contentment and trust it can create in me and my partner. In fact, I love sex so much I've made a hobby of learning more about it. My site is going to share some of the insights I've gained as I've grown in my understanding of this fascinating and wonderful aspect of human experience. I know there is a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding about sex. I'm 35 and I've been there. I remember my first sexual experience and how frightening that was. The boy I was in love with ripped off his pants in the front seat of his car and jumped me. Before both of us knew it, it was over. I'm talking less than one minute. Then I went through a one-woman sexual revolution (age 22-26) of my own. It wasn't until I went through therapy as an adult, recovered my self-esteem and read some books on sex and intimacy, that I discovered what meaningful sex was all about. And yes, it does help to have a knowledgeable and talented lover... ... but there's more. Don't you find it wonderful when a lover is really into what you two are doing together, and he or she seems actively, passionately, and completely absorbed in the pleasure you two are creating? Isn't it great when he or she is experiencing deep, overwhelming delight and directing that energy and appreciation back at you? It's a profound irony that one of the most effective things you can do to become a better lover is to learn to appreciate pleasure even more, but in my experience it's true. In my opinion, the three most important elements to becoming a better lover are learning to feel, choosing what pleases you, and empathy.